The “Jonah Hill caught on camera saying a homophobic slur” scandal that was threatening to explode had a spectacularly short lifespan. Not only that, but the whole incident has had an unusual resolution that any other celebrity who uses an unfortunate choice of words in the future (sadly, it’s inevitable) should try to emulate.
Namely, by giving two deeply heartfelt apologies (first on Howard Stern’s radio show Monday and then on “The Tonight Show” on Tuesday) Hill turned the whole thing around so now people are saying things along the line of, “Wow, that Jonah Hill — what a stand-up guy.”
The whole thing started when the paparazzi were harassing Hill on the street in Los Angeles to an uncomfortable degree, taunting and filming him, leading the very frustrated actor to hurl a homophobic slur in the camera guy’s direction. “Oh, a real bully!” the camera guy exclaims, obviously thrilled that he provoked this result.
Hill explained to Stern that the paparazzo had been following him around all day, making fun of his family and saying other terrible things — and so he snapped, using a “disgusting and hurtful term,” and he regrets it.
“I’m not at all defending my choice of words, but I am happy to be the poster boy for thinking about what you say,” Hill said. “And how those words — even if you don’t intend them in how they mean — they are rooted in hate, and that’s [expletive], and I shouldn’t have said that.”
Hill went further on “The Tonight Show” — coincidentally there to promote his upcoming movie “22 Jump Street” — looking like he was about to cry as he apologized again, saying, “My heart is broken.”
“I was genuinely hurt by this and made angry by this. And in response, I wanted to hurt him back, and I said the most hurtful word that I could think of at that moment. I didn’t mean this in the sense of the word. I didn’t mean it in a homophobic way,” Hill said. “And I think that — that doesn’t matter, you know? How you mean things doesn’t matter. Words have weight and meaning, and the word I chose was grotesque, and no one deserves to say and hear words like that.”
He goes on to say he’s been a supporter of the LGBTQ community his whole life, apologizing repeatedly.
“I’m sorry, and I don’t deserve or expect your forgiveness. But what I’ll ask is that at home, if you’re watching this, and you’re a young person especially: If someone says something that hurts you or angers you, use me as an example of what not to do.”
And then, it led to tweets like this.
jonah hill apologizes-I hope glbtqs will accept this apology, everyone can snap when provoked/targeted 4 humiliation: http://t.co/GgUvGUcuzH
— Roseanne Barr (@therealroseanne) June 3, 2014
First honest apology I’ve seen, hate what he said and did but respect for the apology: Jonah Hill’s Emotional Apology http://t.co/b1HwEwO2Ub
— willgarrow (@willgarrow) June 4, 2014
— Eddie Green (@x3dd13x9x) June 4, 2014
The lesson? Well, in a perfect world, no one should say horrible things. Unfortunately, we live in a culture where there has to be another lesson after the obvious one, given everyone’s obsession with celebrity mishaps and the frequency with which they occur: the way to deal with the fallout when this happens and is captured on video.
So, other celebrities should follow suit. No defenses. No half-hearted Twitter apologies. No statements from publicists claiming that “anyone who knows you” knows you would never do anything like this. Appear in person, say you’re sorry, and actually mean it.