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Posted at 09:59 AM ET, 12/14/2011

Is marriage passe? | #StateofMarriage

For many of us, the fairy tale is not the ideal. (Matt Dunham - Associated Press)
“You don’t move to Washington, D.C., to get married, you move here for your career,” Kate Shorr, 30, told the Post’s Carol Morello.

I’ll give you a second to nod your heads in agreement.

(View tweets on the topic here and chat about the state of marriage at 1 p.m. ET.)

Now that married adults 18 and older are about to be a minority at 51 percent, according to Pew Research Center figures, it’s time for Us Young People to think about our Unique Place in Time, that spot somewhere out there between Trying to Pay Rent and and Trying to Fall in Love and Pay For a Wedding.

TV personality Kim Kardashian's wedding ring, presented without comment. (Jumana El Heloueh - Reuters)
For many of us who sat through parental divorce in the 80s and were raised by single parents who stressed career first in the 90s, the elaborate circus wedding is no longer the ideal. In fact, Pew research from March indicates that 44 percent of millennials — people born after 1980 — believe marriage is becoming obsolete, compared with 43 percent of Gen Xers and 35 percent of Baby Boomers.

So, while politicians and celebrities try to define marriage as The Man and Woman Fairy Tale for the rest of us, even while setting their own failing examples, what they don’t seem to get is that a new crop of young, marrying-age people have long been exhausted on this concept.

About a year ago, just after this Pew study indicated nearly a quarter of Americans believed marriage is unnecessary, we asked people to take a poll and use #Stateofmarriage on Twitter to tell us what they thought. In our unscientific poll, 53 percent of respondents believed marriage “will always be a revered institution,” followed by 34 percent that believed marriage was no longer a dominating societal force.

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