“Because most boys are firmly taught not to cry, holding back has become a reflex,” Kim Elsbach, Ph.D, a professor of management at the University of California, Davis said, as quoted in the Forbes article. “And unfortunately for women, tears at work are almost always perceived with disdain, and the consequences can be harsh.”
Maybe the mantra of no crying allowed at work is changing. After all, Rep. John Boehner (R-Ohio) has been shedding many tears. The Speaker of the House cried numerous times when Rep. Nancy Pelosi (D- Calif.) handed over the gavel. “Saturday Night Live” spoofed his tendency to weep. Boehner cried during his interview on “60 Minutes.”
Has Boehner helped make it okay to cry?
Not really, Elsbach’s research finds. In fact, she says: “The worst offenses, are crying in a public meeting or because of work stress, like a looming deadline or coworker disagreement, because it is considered disruptive and weak. Crying in a private performance evaluation is also considered unprofessional and often manipulative.”
In my upcoming Sunday column, I’ll talk about my April’s Color of Money Book selection, which addresses emotions in the workplace.
So let me ask you this: Have you every cried on your job about work related issues, and if so what, if any, were the consequences?
Send your responses to the Color of Money Question of the Week to firstname.lastname@example.org and put “I’ll Cry If I Want To” in the subject line. Be sure to include your full name, city and state.
Welcoming Wage Cuts
In a weak economy, is it better to fire employees or cut wages to avoid handing out pink slips?
Slate’s Ray Fisman, writing about a number of pay for performance studies, makes a good case that it’s better to keep people around for less money than to have layoffs.
Although cut wages can be bad for productivity,Fisman argues that unemployment can be even more devastating for workers and that many would prefer, say, a 10 percent cut in pay to joining the ranks of the non-working.
“Almost any model of rational behavior would have employers and employees renegotiating labor contracts during tight times to push down wages in order to keep more workers employed,” Fisman writes.
I agree with Fisman that the aversion to pay cuts isn't good for economy overall, He’s right when he says: “The negative impact on a worker's earnings, health, and even the earning prospects of his children lasts decades beyond the pink slip's arrival.”
The State Of Black America
It’s all about jobs, or lack thereof, according to this year’s State of Black America report releasedby the National Urban League.
"Everything that we do in this nation ought to be about job creation,” says Marc H. Morial, president and chief executive of the National Urban League.