In addition to saying he was concerned that wearing a weave meant the women had low self esteem, he criticized them for the amount of money he believed they were spending for their weaves.
“I lead a church where our members are struggling financially,” AmericanPreachers quotes the Texas pastor. “I mean really struggling. Yet, a 26-year-old mother in my church has a $300 weave on her head. NO. I will not be quiet about this.”
The edict generated a lot of buzz online.
TheRoot.com contributing editor Demetria L. Lucas wrote: “It’s curious why he chose to berate women for their hair, instead of actually focusing on the problem of financial miseducation or poor priorities among his congregation.”
She added: “Educating his congregation -- men included, because most of the men lining up overnight to buy Air Jordans and spending money on rims have poor financial priorities, too -- would be more helpful than attacking women’s hair.”
I’m not sure she can go as far as to say most men buying expensive sneakers are poor money managers, but I do agree with Lucas on the point of singling out the women. Why pick on weaves? What about the money so many spend on smartphones? Or cable? Or cars? Or eating out?
You don’t help people become better financial stewards by attacking their choices. They often get defensive and tune you out. Instead, you guide them to better money management by giving them the tools to make better financial decisions.
Color of Money Question of the Week
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Preying on Parishioners
ABC’s “The Lookout” recently updated a story it’s been following about a man the SEC accused of bilking church members out of millions in a Ponzi scheme. The show profiled victims of the scheme, including a couple that lost $1.3 million.
Last year, the Securities and Exchange Commissions charged Ephren W. Taylor II with running a scam that targeted church members. The SEC said Taylor told members he was going to invest their money in charitable causes and economically disadvantaged businesses. Instead, Taylor used the money for his own personal expenses, including publishing and promoting his books, hiring consultants to boost his image and to fund his wife’s singing career, according to the agency.
The SEC says Taylor, a minister’s son, used his church connections to raise more than $11 million from hundreds of investors nationwide from 2008 to 2010 for his Ponzi scheme. Taylor promoted his scam by hosting a multi-city “Building Wealth Tour,” speaking to large churches such as Joel Osteen’s Lakewood Church in Texas and New Birth Missionary Baptist Church led by Bishop Eddie Long. During meetings with parishioners, Taylor would trash traditional investment vehicles such as CDs, mutual funds and the stock market, calling them “foolish” and “money losers,” the SEC said.