Griffin has taken issue with the criticism, responding in one tweet: “Because you are rich you are not allowed to receive gifts and any gifts you receive should be donated to charity???? #WOW Smh...”
RGIII went on to tweet, “Haters gon hate. Theme of the day. They always say more money more problems. Or mo’ money mo’ problems. Yea I’m cultured #DealWithIt”
But Griffin is missing the point. Although he seems like a nice guy, showing off the gifts – even the swaggered way he is standing in the photo -- makes him seem more boastful than grateful. If he wanted to thank fans, a handwritten private note to each giver would have been more appropriate.
It’s not that you shouldn’t receive gifts if you’re wealthy or that you don’t deserve them. And certainly people are free to buy presents for the couple, but why were they registering for gifts at all? Really, they want people to buy them $9 flatware? It’s yet another example of how people treat their special occasions as an opportunity to profit. With so much already, why couldn’t the couple communicate — without a gift registry — that they have so much already?
By the way, I don’t agree that we should suggest that the couple donate the money or gifts they receive. Once given, it’s theirs to use it as they please. I also don’t think the couple should ask guests to donate money to a charity in lieu of gifts. Basically, stop asking people for stuff or money. Period!
I agree with Judith Martin’s take on gift registries. She writes The Washington Post’s Miss Manners column providing common sense advice on etiquette.
In one column, Martin sarcastically asked: “What is the social pay scale? How much will it cost you if someone you know gives birth, graduates, marries or dies?”
“People anxious to be spared the thoughtful efforts of others to please them have long been selecting their own presents by means of the gift registry. Many now want to skip even that blatant bit of laundering to get their hands directly on the cash. Some declare frankly that they expect their guests to help pay the wedding or honeymoon expenses, or their mortgage. Others explain that they already have everything they need, in which case Miss Manners would have thought they would be counting their blessings and thinking about helping the less fortunate.”
Griffin should read the entire column. And if you are having a party to celebrate getting married, graduating, moving in together, or having a baby, you should read it, too.
I’ll leave you with these wise words from Miss Manners to people wondering what to give or how much to pay those being toasted on such occasions: “Just go pick out something nice that you can afford. Or skip the whole panhandling event — there are more worthy charities than people putting on expensive weddings.”