Different bedtimes = diminished couple time

From my inbox, what I suspect is an underreported problem: “My fiance and I have lived together for several months, and our sleeping patterns are way off: I go to bed around 10:30 p.m. to get up in time for the start of business. I tend to keep a similar schedule on the weekends because I have a lot to do. He regularly stays up working until after midnight, sleeps in (his manager doesn’t care), and carries this schedule through the weekend.

”This schedule gets in the way of spending time together and our sex life. I don’t even know where to begin compromising. He claims he can’t fall asleep before 1:30 a.m., and I can’t function on less than seven hours of sleep.”

Would you “begin compromising” — and if so, where? Or would you take a different approach?

— Carolyn Hax

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