How to ask, ‘Why didn’t you invite me to your wedding?’

“A long-time friend of mine got married recently and invited everyone in our circle of friends (including newcomers and casual friendships) except me. The only thing I can think of is that they invited my ex (although we were always civil at mutual gatherings after the breakup) or that they DID invite me and I never received it. What’s the best thing to do? Let it go? Ask them? Give them a card anyway? We still hang out at group gatherings but haven’t talked about this.

“It happened a few months ago, is there a statute of limitations on this kind of thing--did I let too much time pass to address it properly?”

Any crowd-sourced diplomacy for this reader?

- Carolyn Hax

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