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- Carolyn taps into her inbox, so you can be Hax, too.
It’s not you, it’s the economy, stupid?
Not sure if this is timely, or timeless: “I have been dating my boyfriend for a few years — we don’t live together — and during that time his self-made business has pretty much collapsed. He is borrowing money from friends and family. He’s never asked me for a loan, which I appreciate. He’s a good guy with a big heart.
“He recently began working for six weeks or so for a friend in another town. Since he’s been gone, I realize I’m more relaxed than I’ve been in a long time.
“He just told me he might be fired at any time, and about the problems on the work site.
“I want to listen, and I have listened these past few years. But I am hitting my emotional limit with his living in a constant state of crisis. After he called today I felt like throwing up. How do I tell him that I have reached my limit, without having him feel that he has been abandoned? Or how do I not feel that I’ve abandoned him in a time of need?”
Do you see this as an issue of poor choices, poor circumstances or both? Do you think the distinction makes a difference in the advice you give?
— Carolyn Hax
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