The wrong goodbye?

From a reader: “My mother was in a nursing home for several years. During that time, my brother, several states away, never once asked about her health, or offered to take on any of the burden of managing her finances.

“When she died, I figured if he hadn’t been interested in her when she was alive, there was no reason to suppose he would care that she was dead. So I didn’t bother to inform him.

“Nearly everyone at the funeral, and family members since, seem to think my decision was terrible. I don’t see it that way, but I’m willing to hear an impartial opinon. Should I apologize?”

I’m looking forward to those impartial opinions, too--and the biased ones, especially if you explain your slant.

- Carolyn Hax

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