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When one cancer exposes another
From a generous reader: “I have been friendly with a woman through work, and occasionally we’ve double-dated with our husbands. In January her husband was diagnosed with an aggressive cancer and I dropped everything to help her: watched her children, helped her run her business, cooked them meals, was a shoulder to cry on, etc. I really thought our friendship grew during this time.
“Her husband has now completed his grueling treatment process and seems to be on the mend (yay!) and I haven’t heard from her in six weeks. She says she’s busy, which I get--but I’m still doing all of her bookkeeping and invoicing (on top of my own full-time job), while her Facebook posts are of her out at football games, concerts and picnics. I feel very used, and I’m not sure how to get over it.”
So, Philers. Is this strictly a live-and-learn situation, or is it time for her to say something to her “friend”? That is, besides, “I’m turning your bookkeeping and invoicing back over to you, now that the crisis has passed,” which she needs to say today, no matter what.
- Carolyn Hax
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