Date Lab: Sense of humor has so many meanings ...


March 20, 2011

 About the daters

Best date ever…

Katie: New Year’s Eve in Paris, in the snow, with dinner from the street market.

Dan: Hiking in Big Bend National Park in Texas for the day, eating at this little roadside restaurant in the middle of nowhere. Afterwards, going back to the lodge, putting on some music and opening a bottle of wine.

Your idea of funny…

Katie: Not potty humor. Sarcasm, wit and a healthy ability to laugh easily.

Dan: “That’s what she said” jokes are always hilarious. She has to be able to laugh at stupid jokes. She also has to be loose enough to laugh at herself and not be too self-conscious.

Interests you hope to share…

Katie: Art, travel, learning, food, vino and tailgating (football, horse races, polo matches).

Dan: Travel is important to me. I’m always interested in trying new things, whether it is local or a flight away. I care about the environment and am pretty big into recycling and being green. Family is important to me.

Dream date…

Katie: Warm-hearted, multilingual, yacht-owning, Saatchi & Saatchi executive with vineyards on every continent and an appetite for cheese.

Dan: Nobody who is too into material things or what other people think. Somebody who is comfortable in their own skin and passionate about living life to the fullest. Physically: Danneel Harris, Mandy Moore, Jessica Biel, Amanda Bynes, Scarlett Johansson, to name a few.

The date: 7:30 p.m., Little Fountain Cafe, Adams Morgan

Dan: I got there about 10 minutes early. We had a table reserved for us near the fountain. I’m tall, like 6’5”, so I had to duck through parts of the restaurant; otherwise I would have knocked myself out. She got there within a couple minutes. She was definitely cute [and] has pretty eyes.

Katie: My first thought when I saw him: Wow, he’s tall. He had that in his favor. I wouldn’t say he’s unattractive. I would say he’s not my type. I’ve tended to go for the slightly darker mix of features. He seemed a little bit nervous, but I guess it’s kind of an awkward situation, and it’s an intimate restaurant. We sat down. I ordered a glass of wine; he ordered a beer.

Dan: I was a little bit nervous at the beginning. We were right in front of the mirror, in the corner of the restaurant, so I kind of felt like we were on display. Pretty quickly we started talking about where we work and where we live.

Katie: We shared two appetizers — a cheese plate and mussels. I enjoy food a lot. I cook a lot. It is important to me. I could tell this was not something we had in common.

Dan: I’m not completely naive. But I was asking her about a couple things on the menu, especially the different cheeses. I had no idea what they were.

Katie: My background is in art history and foreign affairs. I’ve done a lot of traveling. I didn’t feel like there was a connection on that level at all. I could never get a sense for what he’s into or what he’s about. He’s in a lot of recreational sports leagues, which is cool. He said he loves sports [but] he prefers college sports. Sundays are sacred for me — I don’t miss a Redskins game. He enjoys music, I guess. When he said he was a male nurse, it was a surprise, because I’ve never met a male nurse. It’s certainly a noble profession.

Dan: We have totally different career fields. But the main difference, I think, was the sense of humor. She’s not a dull person, but I don’t think our senses of humor matched up. Like, she ordered some sort of beef for dinner. I had a chicken dish. The lady told me, “You know, the chicken takes 25 minutes to cook.” And I said: “Don’t worry. My next date isn’t until 10. I got plenty of time.” I guess she kind of laughed at that.

Katie: That was funny! I mean, should I be rolling around the floor laughing? I do feel like sometimes we were reaching to make conversation. I wouldn’t say we failed at it. I just think we had totally different interests. Throughout dinner, I was trying to figure out what [Date Lab] saw in each of us to put us together.

Dan: It was, like, 10:30, so we got the bill. She seemed to be having an average time. I mean, she didn’t seem to be eyeing the door. We laughed a couple of times about things, but I could never find the right avenue to make the date fun. It was hard to play off each other. I asked her if she wanted to get a drink somewhere else or call it a night. She said, “I think I’m going to call it a night. I’ve had a long day.”

Katie: It was nice of him to make the offer. But it was a school night, and I don’t think I wanted to keep the date going any longer anyway. We walked to top of Adams Morgan and caught cabs. I was getting in when he said he’d had a good time and asked for my number. I gave it to him.

Dan: I said, “Do you think you want to go out?” She was like, “Um, we’ll see.” There was a pat on my arm, and she got into the cab. Honestly, I’m fine with it. There was no spark, even though we had a perfectly good evening together. I would give the date a 3 [out of 5].

Katie: All things told, he was a really nice guy. He’s going to be a fantastic guy for someone else. It just wasn’t a successful pairing. I’m inclined to give it a 3.

— Interviews by Stephen Lowman

UPDATE: When the cab door closed, this combo was concluded. “I knew when she was getting in the car that nothing wouldprobably happen,” Dan said. “I’m really not surprised,” at the outcome, Katie said.

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 About the daters

Best date ever…

Katie: New Year’s Eve in Paris, in the snow, with dinner from the street market.

Dan: Hiking in Big Bend National Park in Texas for the day, eating at this little roadside restaurant in the middle of nowhere. Afterwards, going back to the lodge, putting on some music and opening a bottle of wine.

Your idea of funny…

Katie: Not potty humor. Sarcasm, wit and a healthy ability to laugh easily.

Dan: “That’s what she said” jokes are always hilarious. She has to be able to laugh at stupid jokes. She also has to be loose enough to laugh at herself and not be too self-conscious.

Interests you hope to share…

Katie: Art, travel, learning, food, vino and tailgating (football, horse races, polo matches).

Dan: Travel is important to me. I’m always interested in trying new things, whether it is local or a flight away. I care about the environment and am pretty big into recycling and being green. Family is important to me.

Dream date…

Katie: Warm-hearted, multilingual, yacht-owning, Saatchi & Saatchi executive with vineyards on every continent and an appetite for cheese.

Dan: Nobody who is too into material things or what other people think. Somebody who is comfortable in their own skin and passionate about living life to the fullest. Physically: Danneel Harris, Mandy Moore, Jessica Biel, Amanda Bynes, Scarlett Johansson, to name a few.

The date: 7:30 p.m., Little Fountain Cafe, Adams Morgan

Dan: I got there about 10 minutes early. We had a table reserved for us near the fountain. I’m tall, like 6’5”, so I had to duck through parts of the restaurant; otherwise I would have knocked myself out. She got there within a couple minutes. She was definitely cute [and] has pretty eyes.

Katie: My first thought when I saw him: Wow, he’s tall. He had that in his favor. I wouldn’t say he’s unattractive. I would say he’s not my type. I’ve tended to go for the slightly darker mix of features. He seemed a little bit nervous, but I guess it’s kind of an awkward situation, and it’s an intimate restaurant. We sat down. I ordered a glass of wine; he ordered a beer.

Dan: I was a little bit nervous at the beginning. We were right in front of the mirror, in the corner of the restaurant, so I kind of felt like we were on display. Pretty quickly we started talking about where we work and where we live.

Katie: We shared two appetizers — a cheese plate and mussels. I enjoy food a lot. I cook a lot. It is important to me. I could tell this was not something we had in common.

Dan: I’m not completely naive. But I was asking her about a couple things on the menu, especially the different cheeses. I had no idea what they were.

Katie: My background is in art history and foreign affairs. I’ve done a lot of traveling. I didn’t feel like there was a connection on that level at all. I could never get a sense for what he’s into or what he’s about. He’s in a lot of recreational sports leagues, which is cool. He said he loves sports [but] he prefers college sports. Sundays are sacred for me — I don’t miss a Redskins game. He enjoys music, I guess. When he said he was a male nurse, it was a surprise, because I’ve never met a male nurse. It’s certainly a noble profession.

Dan: We have totally different career fields. But the main difference, I think, was the sense of humor. She’s not a dull person, but I don’t think our senses of humor matched up. Like, she ordered some sort of beef for dinner. I had a chicken dish. The lady told me, “You know, the chicken takes 25 minutes to cook.” And I said: “Don’t worry. My next date isn’t until 10. I got plenty of time.” I guess she kind of laughed at that.

Katie: That was funny! I mean, should I be rolling around the floor laughing? I do feel like sometimes we were reaching to make conversation. I wouldn’t say we failed at it. I just think we had totally different interests. Throughout dinner, I was trying to figure out what [Date Lab] saw in each of us to put us together.

Dan: It was, like, 10:30, so we got the bill. She seemed to be having an average time. I mean, she didn’t seem to be eyeing the door. We laughed a couple of times about things, but I could never find the right avenue to make the date fun. It was hard to play off each other. I asked her if she wanted to get a drink somewhere else or call it a night. She said, “I think I’m going to call it a night. I’ve had a long day.”

Katie: It was nice of him to make the offer. But it was a school night, and I don’t think I wanted to keep the date going any longer anyway. We walked to top of Adams Morgan and caught cabs. I was getting in when he said he’d had a good time and asked for my number. I gave it to him.

Dan: I said, “Do you think you want to go out?” She was like, “Um, we’ll see.” There was a pat on my arm, and she got into the cab. Honestly, I’m fine with it. There was no spark, even though we had a perfectly good evening together. I would give the date a 3 [out of 5].

Katie: All things told, he was a really nice guy. He’s going to be a fantastic guy for someone else. It just wasn’t a successful pairing. I’m inclined to give it a 3.

— Interviews by Stephen Lowman

UPDATE: When the cab door closed, this combo was concluded. “I knew when she was getting in the car that nothing wouldprobably happen,” Dan said. “I’m really not surprised,” at the outcome, Katie said.

Senior-citizen Harry Potter fans — Date Lab wants you! Apply now at washingtonpost.com/datelab. Find out what else we’re up to at facebook.com/datelab or follow us on Twitter @datelab.

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