Right now that means turning Grass Widow into a less consuming venture. Between tour dates, the three are focusing on other projects, including Mahon’s woodworking, Lew’s filmmaking and Maring’s songwriting for other musical projects.
“I think a really important part of our sustainability is to have full-formed lives outside of the band as well as within the band,” Maring said. “To be honest and to be true to ourselves and to our own creative endeavors outside of the band will only help strengthen our relationships together and what we do together.”
Lew said the desire to maintain that balance could be a sign of age — “I think the older you get, the more you’re like, ‘I don’t want to do stuff I don’t want to do’ ” — and it extends to the band’s approach to touring. The women opt for two weeks on the road instead of five-week stints, so that they stay connected with friends and family.
“We take things into account,” 32-year-old Lew said. “Like, oh, maybe we shouldn’t drive all night and then play a show . . . Or, even though it costs more money to get a hotel room, maybe we should do that instead of sleeping on some 20-year-old’s floor. Because we want to stay a band longer.”
It takes constant tweaking to maintain the equilibrium, but the three agree the output warrants the effort. Balanced people make complementary bandmates, who make harmonious music. That’s a helpful lesson, and not just for musicians.
“This is really the longest committed relationship I’ve ever been in, and I’d say that it’s the most successful,” Maring said. “Everything we’ve been through together has taught me that it is possible to have that commitment to someone. And that’s affected my friendships, it’s affected all of my relationships. I’m really grateful for that.”
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