It’s very common for there to be friction after one member of a friend group couples off or has a child (or gets a shar-pei!) while the others don’t. But without specific examples, I can’t tell whether this is that typical tension or whether there’s something more complicated underfoot.
Perhaps this doesn’t have as much to do with your child as it does with some other slight, real or perceived, or it could be that they feel that you’re not as interested in them now that your life has changed. Pick the person in the group who you feel the closest to and have a private conversation about the tension you feel. How seriously she takes you will speak volumes about how deep this rift has gotten.
Not Exactly Your Kind of Music
I am a folk singer/songwriter. Recently, I found out from my husband that his siblings are planning to sing raunchy parodies of my songs at the next family gathering. I can’t put my finger on why this bothers me. While I don’t want to come off as oversensitive about the whole thing, it seems like they’re making fun of my music. Should I say something or just try to be a good sport about this? -Parodied
What was your husband’s attitude about the whole thing? There are ways that this could be done with love, and there are ways that this could be done that make you run from the house shrieking, wanting to poke your in-laws with a cattle prod.
Talk to him about your concerns, and see whether, as your loving, lifelong mate, he can run interference. It’s totally understandable that you’d be hurt to have your work mocked and also totally understandable that this might be a misinterpretation that’s been blown out of proportion. Although it isn’t cited specifically in most wedding vows, it’s a spouse’s sacred duty to help protect his or her mate’s work from being turned into songs about body parts.