When you’re single, everyone has advice. Some say to ask friends to set you up. Others tell you to look for your soul mate online. Stand-up comedian Ophira Eisenberg, author of “Screw Everyone: Sleeping My Way to Monogamy,” decided to, er, sample lots of men, and eventually found her future husband.
The “late-30-something” Eisenberg and Marion Winik, 55, author of “Highs in the Low 50s: How I Stumbled Through the Joys of Single Living,” will chat about dating while funny and Jewish at Sixth and I Historic Synagogue on Thursday.
Sleeping around: That’s one way to see what’s out there.
Some people fall in love at first sight. Some people wait for the perfect person to show up in their life. I played the field. I ended up finding The One — the guy I was happy to consider marriage with — just by using the largest possible sample size.
Did you get dating fatigue?
Relationships and dating were an adventure for me. I never was the type to jump out of a plane, but this was my thrill — not without its ups and downs, of course. I fell in love way too easily and probably didn’t take things seriously enough a hundred other times.
Any other downsides?
In New York, I was at a low point where I’d go to this bar, and I thought I was in control, and I’d just kind of leave with people. That was my game, to see if I could get guys to go home with me.
Do you think that being a funny woman made it easier or harder for you in the dating world?
When have you ever met at guy who said, “I just want to meet a girl who thinks she’s funnier than me”? It’s pretty rare. I mean, guys don’t usually come back to me after a show and say, “Hey, you were sexy up there.”
How did you meet the guy who later became your husband?
We were introduced by friends. At the time, he was crazy online dating — like, one of those people who was doing a 7 o’clock, a 9 o’clock and an 11 o’clock. My husband’s a total comic-book nerd and super-sweet, and I think I was at the point where I could identify what he brought to the table.
What do you think you and Marion will talk about?
Marion goes through her dating experience a little bit later in life. I’m assuming that what we’re going to find is that human nature is human nature. There’s a difference between going through these things as a 23-year-old woman and then as a 43-year-old woman, but there will be something so similar. It’s the same song.