I’m sure it sounds as if my attitude is the source of my woes, but I’m actually cheerful, hardworking, smart, well-liked and trusted by peers and management.
Karla: Ever been on a first date with someone who can’t stop talking about a bad ex? As the ranting continues into the second bottle of wine, you start to wonder how reliable the narrator is and why he or she is even out with you.
Your job in an interview is to show what makes you a great catch. There’s nothing to be gained by complaining; the hiring manager is not interested in rescuing you.
Find a way to express your desire to move on in words that don’t feel like a lie: “After 11 years, I’m looking to shift gears and take on new challenges. I believe my [insert relevant skills here] make me a good fit for your position.” Don’t mention that “shift gears” is a euphemism for “squeal and peel like a bat out of hell.”
If the hiring manager brings up rumors about your current employer’s woes — word gets around in a small industry — don’t lie, but stick to the high road. The interviewer may be testing your diplomatic skills. And a good interviewer can read between the lines.
Another reason to focus on the positive: You don’t want to be so invested in escaping your current employer that you fly blindly into an even worse situation.
You’re cheerful, hardworking, smart, well-liked and, I might add, good with words. Those traits, not hints about your soul-sucking job, are what will get you a follow-up call that could be the start of a beautiful new relationship — one where you can trade bad-ex stories at happy hour as you toast your future together.
Karla L. Miller is ready to hear your work dramas and traumas. Send your questions to
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