Date Lab: Is it hot in here or is it just the yoga studio?


(Courtesy of the daters)
September 22, 2011

About the daters ...

Best date ever ...

Josh: When my date sneaked in tiny wine bottles to the movie we were about to see.

Natalie: Spent the day walking and talking. It’s that simple.

How you’re not D.C. ...

Josh: I’m a little fast-paced for this city, even though I am from the South. I have spent enough time in New York for it to rub off on me.

Natalie: I’m not concerned with using social time to “network” or get ahead in my career. Time with good friends is time to enjoy, and time for work is work.


(Courtesy of the daters)
Interests to share ...

Josh: Running, reading the paper, reading books, travel, a love of good food/cooking and likes to go out and be social.

Natalie: Passion for LIFE and all that it has to offer. Positive person, half-glass-full kinda guy.

Dealbreakers ...

Josh: Not being in good shape, can’t carry a conversation, uninformed, not smart enough, not attractive enough, poorly dressed.

Natalie: If he is shorter than me, if he talks excessively about himself, if he can’t laugh and lastly, if he is LAZY, it’s a no-go.

About the date ...

7:30 p.m., Grillfish, Dupont Circle

Josh: I was reading about the fifth anniversary of Date Lab and [thought]: This sounds kind of fun. When I was on the Metro, I found myself looking around, like: Am I gonna sit down with this girl? Is this the person? I was a little excited. I got there about 10 minutes early. I feel like that’s the polite move to do, to be the first one there. I was just sitting at the bar, drinking water. I didn’t want to be too tipsy before the date started.

Natalie: I work full time for a nonprofit and teach yoga part time. I taught a Bikram yoga class early that morning. [It’s] the original hot yoga. It’s a 90-minute practice with 26 postures and two breathing exercises in a heated yoga studio. I walked into Grillfish and told the host that I was with The Post, and he turned to me, grabbed my arm and said, “Oh, he’s cute.” So I started cracking up. He takes me two steps further, and I’m still laughing, and he introduces me to Josh. You can’t not agree with [the host] — [Josh] was a very good-looking guy and he fits that perfect image [of] a D.C. law student, casual and relaxed but at the same time had that kind of ambitious aura about him. [But] I didn’t have that attraction feeling to him.

Josh: She seemed friendly. That put me in a good mood, too, because it seemed like she [was] really happy to be there. She was cute, probably not my type, but I [was] happy to see what she was about and have a good time. I stood up, and I shook her hand, and we both smiled at each other.

Natalie: I’m a happy person normally, but I think we were both excited just to be experiencing something new. We had a lot of similarities in our life — he [is also] from North Carolina, and as we started talking, we found more things that were on the same page. [The] conversation was really easy. I have a lot of friends in law school, so I was familiar with his stories. I talked a little bit about yoga, and he had never [tried] Bikram yoga, so I told him [he] should come take a class, not thinking that he’d really take me up on it, and he goes, “No, I really will,” so we’ll see.

Josh: I’ve done [yoga] a few times. I’m not an expert, but I think it’s cool. She was a really fun person to talk to. I feel like we both laughed a lot, but maybe too much, almost. She’s a really sweet girl, and I got to know about what she does and everything, but [I] didn’t feel like [there was] anything deeper that I wanted to really get into in the future. I like a little mystery, you know. I feel like [when] you get past the getting-to-know-you stage, you have a little more fun, and instead of just talking about yourselves, [you can have] a deeper, more intellectual conversation. Maybe I could have done a better job steering [our conversation], but also we weren’t naturally gravitating towards that.

Natalie: It would be fun to get in a [deeper] conversation with him, because I think he likes to debate, obviously, he’s in law school, but it didn’t transpire. Going on a run or out for a drink with him would be really fun, [but] I wouldn’t say that there was a physical chemistry there for me. I think he used the yoga as an easy out, if you will. Not that he doesn’t want to, but that it was an easy way to [see] each other again but not in a romantic setting.

Josh: Yeah, I really do think that’s possible. It’d be a fun, casual way [of seeing her again]. We settled up there at the restaurant and walked over to the Dupont Metro, and there was some kind of random street brass band playing, so we ended up hanging out there for a while. Actually, that was a lot of fun now that I think about it, and maybe things could have gotten a little flirtier. We’re sort of out there, we’re close, and I think I probably told myself maybe I could make a move here. But you know, like I said, I felt like we were friends at that point, and so nothing ended up happening. We definitely hugged, I felt much closer to her after the date than before. It wasn’t a handshake situation. But I did not go in for the kiss. I would give [the date a] 3.5 [out of 5]. I was open to meeting somebody who I would date, and that didn’t happen, so it was a little disappointing, but overall the experience was more fun than I had expected.

Natalie: It was weird when I was walking home and it was all over. I was like: Wow, I am just walking home from a random date? I have never done something like that before. I enjoyed myself, and I had good food and a good guy to share it with. So I would give it a 5. It was a great experience for sure.

UPDATE: No contact for these two since date night. Josh says he still likes the idea of taking a yoga class with Natalie, but now that law school is back in session, he doesn’t think he’ll have time.

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