Date Lab: It was so easygoing, the restaurant staff said they looked like old friends


(Photograph courtesy daters)
October 3, 2013

She’s smart, social and self-sufficient, and searching for an easygoing guy with “quiet confidence.” He’s a self-described “most romantic man someone would ever meet” and looking for a petite, outdoorsy animal-lover. We sent them to Trattoria da Franco in Old Town to see if they’re a match.

David: I’d gone on a couple of semi-blind dates recently, set up by friends. When I went on them, I was thinking, Gee, I guess my friends don’t know me as well as they think they do.

Amy:When I walked in the door I saw someone looking brightly at me. ... At first I thought it was my date, [but] he was the much older restaurant singer. The staff were quick to put me back in the right direction and introduce [David], so that was good. He seems like just a really warm, friendly person.

David: I was happy as far as appearances go — I thought she was attractive but not quite my type. My usual type is more ... for lack of a better word, a damsel in distress. I’m not like that male who’s looking for a woman who defers to the man or something like that. Just, you know, I’d like someone who ... would look towards me for help. I got the sense I wouldn’t be needed by [Amy].

Amy: We sat down and took a few minutes to settle in and do introductions. Both of us were looking at it as: No matter what, it’s sort of a mini-adventure and a story to tell. He seemed a stable but adventurous new person, as far as his willingness to try new things and get involved.

David: We both had the attitude that we like to try everything at least once — whether it’s whitewater rafting or going to a Star Trek convention. That’s the kind of stuff that was coming up. It was very easygoing. So much to the point that the staff came over and were like, “This is a first blind date? You look like you get along so well, like old friends.”

Amy: He pulled out his phone to show me a picture of his dog, who is his friend but also his partner for search and rescue. I talked about things I’d told my friends I wouldn’t say, which is my allergies to dogs and cats.

David: There was a piano bar there with a guy singing. The chef came out and sang. I promised my date I wouldn’t sing; she said, “Okay, I won’t either.” But it was fun to see.

Amy: As far as romantic chemistry, I don’t think there was that sort of vibe going on. It felt more of a friend level than romantic.

David: I got a sense that she was a lot more established and could definitely take care of herself: She is not a damsel in distress!

Amy: I was impressed with his nature: He manages one of the rec centers, and he’s used to having lots of screaming kids running around the pool and stuff. God bless him, I don’t know if I could handle that many wild children at one time.

David:We were the last to leave the restaurant; we outlasted all the other customers. We didn’t exchange numbers or anything like that. Neither of us offered.


(PHOTOGRAPHS OF BACKPACK BY BIGSTOCK; RICHARD BRANSON, LEFT, BY ANDREW WALKER/GETTY IMAGES; GEORGE CLOONEY BY IAN GAVAN/GETTY IMAGES; EAGLE BY RICKY CARIOTI; TIGER BY BIGSTOCK; BILL MURRAY OF “LOST IN TRANSLATION” BY DAVID FISHER/REX FEATURES/ASSOCIATED PRESS; EUGENE LEVY IN “BEST IN SHOW” BY PATRICK RYAN/REUTERS)

Amy: We said our goodbyes and had a hug, and then we were on our way. I think we were probably both on the same page about it just being a nice, friendly, pleasant evening.

David: This one was the better of the three [blind dates] I’ve been on recently. I can see why you guys put us together. [But] I’m at this point in my life where I wouldn’t see her again because I know I’m not attracted to her in that way, and I want to find somebody I can settle down with.

RATE THE DATE

David: I would give it a 4 out of 5, because the conversation was great and she was attractive. But because there was no spark, that’s why it lost the 5.

Amy: A 4. I’ve been on some horrific dates, so anytime things end pleasantly and you feel like you’ve had a nice couple of hours and an enjoyable conversation, that’s my only expectation in a date.

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UPDATE: Despite the high ratings they gave for the date, David and Amy didn’t plan a follow-up. “I could tell (and I think she could as well) that there wasn’t that potential to build on,” David says. Amy concurs.

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