Date Lab: Maybe sorta kinda possibly a little bit?


(Courtesy of the daters)
About the daters ...
First thing in the morning ...

Carleigh: Press the snooze button, then peel myself out of bed and make my morning eggs and coffee.

Joe: Look at the clock, then brush my teeth.

Desired superpower ...

Carleigh: Teleportation, no question. How incredible would it be to go anywhere you desire in a flash? Travel the world, see friends and family whenever you like, stop overpaying for Amtrak. Plus, you’d never be stuck in traffic again.

Joe: Being able to fly. Why not? It would make traveling easier, and there are a lot of cities I’d like to see from a different perspective.

Brag a little ...

Carleigh: I’m very warm and caring, deeply loyal to my friends and family, and have a great sense of humor. I know how to let loose and have a good time, but can be serious when the circumstances call for it.


(Courtesy of the daters)

Joe: I’m quirky, confident in who I am, and have a variety of interests, so I can talk about several different topics. Even if I don’t know about a topic, I’d still ask a lot of questions so I could learn from the conversation. I know how to cook.

Your type ...

Carleigh: I’m a sucker for tall, dark and handsome. Smart and witty with a dash of nerdy is also good. And mostly, someone that’s not intimidated by an intelligent girl.

Joe: Physically, I prefer brunettes. Charming personality, likes to laugh, doesn’t take herself too seriously, enjoys the outdoors, easygoing but can still hold a serious conversation.

About the date ...

7:30 p.m., Pazo Restaurant, Baltimore

Joe: I took off work early just so I wasn’t rushing when I got home and took a quick bike ride around Fort McHenry. I was slightly nervous but not to where I was freaking out.

Carleigh: I’m pretty outgoing, so I’m always looking to meet new people. I don’t get all that anxious about these kinds of things. I took a cab, and I got there about 15 minutes early, so then I did a very quick little walk around the area. I ended up showing up 10 minutes early. He was already there.

Joe: I was going to get a drink, and then she showed up at the bar. With the hostess there, we kinda just shook hands and introduced ourselves. I thought she was cute. She had a great smile. She was a little bit shorter obviously, and anybody shorter than me works better than being taller, so from a physical standpoint, yes, she was very attractive. If I had to compare her, she looks sorta like Katie Holmes.

Carleigh: He was cute, I guess. And seemed like a nice guy. I tend to go for people who are kind of tall and athletic — but he wasn’t short or unathletic. He’s an attractive guy, but it wasn’t like, Oh, my God! It was just like, Oh, he’s nice-looking. Seems like a good guy.

Joe: No awkward silences or anything like that. Like in any first date, you’re trying to get some general questions right off the bat.

Carleigh: It was pretty good. Conversation flowed relatively easily. We had a lot to talk about. I had just taken a big trip to Africa, so we talked a little bit about what I was doing over there. Then he talked about the music that he likes, because he had just gone to a music festival.

Joe: I think she got a cocktail. I got a Dogfish beer. We both got calamari, which was delicious. Then she got some kind of red snapper, and I got grilled lamb steak. She had hiked Mount Kilimanjaro. That was something I’d had in my bucket list, so I was asking questions all about that and safaris. I’m into travel, so I was like, “I’ve got plenty of questions for you now.”

Carleigh: It was kind of a very platonic date. We had great conversation, and he was very nice. But there didn’t seem to be chemistry or flirtatiousness. It felt more like you were just talking to someone you just met and learning about them and their interests.

Joe: It’s kind of hard, at least for me, to know right away. But I felt comfortable. She had plenty of stories. I couldn’t tell if there was chemistry right off the bat, but I think we were were both enjoying the experience.

Carleigh: I just didn’t really feel that kind of [romantic] connection. We’re just passionate about really different things. We could understand we have different interests and talk about them, but we didn’t necessarily connect on those levels of what our core interests are.

Joe: We stayed until around 10, I guess. Then we got some pictures at the end. I was like, “Well, we’re right near Fells Point, if you want to go for a drink.”

Carleigh: I was like, “Sure, why don’t we get another drink?” So we continued conversation at this fun little hole in the wall, Rye. It was just the one drink. He offered to drive me home, which was nice, because it saved me on the cab fare. He asked for my number, so we ended up exchanging numbers. But at the end of the date, we ended up shaking each other’s hand.

Joe: We were talking about similar bars and places we go. I was like, “Oh, I’ll let you know if I’m up here in this area, and we can meet up.” If she’s up for hanging out, I’d be up for hanging out. I don’t know if it would be something like a date or something like that. But just low-key hanging out. I would give it a 4. I had a great time for not knowing the person.

Carleigh: 3.5. We had good conversation but, I don’t know ... I like to give people more than one chance. Sometimes within the first few of hours of meeting somebody you don’t make that initial connection but later on you can. So, you know. It isn’t like, “Absolutely, I want to see him again.” But if he asked me out, maybe I would give him a second chance.

UPDATE: Joe texted a few days later, but no mention of going out again, and Carleigh didn’t suggest it. “No follow-up dates,” she says. “Nothing else.”

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