Date Lab: On this date, he gets some exciting news


(Photograph courtesy of the daters)
August 8, 2013

She wanted a confident, smart, funny guy “who likes confident, smart, funny girls.” He was in search of an “independent, self-confident achiever with eclectic tastes and a comfort in almost any social setting.” We sent them to Mari Vanna in Dupont Circle. Did we deliver? We think so. And speaking of deliveries ...

Kris: They had seated me with my back to the door, so I saw him as he got to the table. I noticed first that he was tall. I definitely like tall guys. He’s a good-looking guy; he didn’t look like he had an attitude: really friendly, open and happy to sit down and start chatting.

David: She’s good. She had nice hair, like really curly, natural, just-let-it-go kind of hair. And she’s very smiley. She just looked friendly and immediately just jumped in. It was funny that she was [seated on a] sofa, which is lower than the chair I was sitting on, and I’m significantly taller than she is. So I’m kind of looking down on her. I’m this massive guy, and here she is this smaller woman, sitting on the sofa against the wall.

Kris: I think we started off talking about Date Lab. We talked about what reasons Date Lab might have matched us up. It was easy to tell: We’re both big in the nonprofit world; we’re both liberal, laid-back; we’re both do-gooders.


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David: We found out that we both dog-sat over the Fourth [of July], so we showed each other photos of the dogs we sat for. [Then] I showed her pictures of my family; she showed me pictures of her family. I think that immediately made the conversation deeper and more personal.

Kris: He mentioned that he was going to be a godfather; he’s excited. It was obvious that he is a kid’s guy. So I was hearing a little about his upcoming travels [to see the baby]. The conversation flow was easy. We both are people people — people persons? — so we both had tons of questions for each other and had no trouble keeping the conversation going.

David: She has that fundraiser’s ease of conversation. In conversation I’m like a dog, and you throw a stick, and I’ll chase it. So the conversation just constantly whipped all over the place. [And] we had a lot of interesting touch points in common. She has worked for organizations that I respect. I know a little of her world, what she does career-wise; she knows a little about what I do. I think there was a quite a long list.

Kris: He’s really funny, so we had a lot of laughs. I would say we were compatible. David is from Alabama, so he is very much a Southern gentleman. I’d say [there was] mild flirting, but in a gentlemanly way. After dinner we went to the third floor, which is more of a club atmosphere, and then we went down to the first-floor bar and had a drink there.

David: I said, “We’re going out again, right?” That way we could just relax and talk. Then we went a little deeper: It was more personal, more relaxed body language, a little more laughing. It could have been flirting, or it could have been vodka, but I’d like to think she was the receiver of some flirting. While we were there, I suggested checking to see if we’re connected on LinkedIn or Facebook, and when I looked at my phone I had five text messages telling me [my goddaughter] was coming. So I got to leave the date on this magical high.

Kris: I had no idea we were talking for so long, but when we left it was later than I thought it was — maybe 11 or 11:30. He was very gentlemanly, and despite the fact that his car was in the other direction, he walked me home.

David: She said, “Let me give you my number,” and I didn’t even think that I didn’t have it. By that time, I felt like [I knew] her.

RATE THE DATE

Kris: [I’d rate the date] a 4 [out of 5]. We had so much to talk about.

David: I’m going to give it a 5. How could it not be? I certainly want to see her again.

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UPDATE: David texted Kris the next morning with photos of his new goddaughter, then hit the road to meet her. When David got back in town he invited Kris to a Washington Kastles match. “I don’t know anything about tennis so I was excited to do something new,” Kris says. According to both, a third date was likely.

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