Laura waited five years for us to set her up, but we made up for it by setting her up with Jason — who has many of the qualities she requested. Will it lead to a deeper connection? A lively conversation at Baby Wale in Mount Vernon Square is a good start.
Jason: I figured maybe she would look like a typical D.C. person — sort of business casual, conservatively dressed. I was pleasantly surprised to see she had specs and very cool dyed hair.
Laura: He had a beard, which I like. He had a warm demeanor, and he put me at ease right away.
Jason: She did a very good job of breaking the ice immediately. There was never a lull — except maybe for when I was eating quite a bit of fried cheese later. She was very lively.
Laura: We were trying to figure out what our commonalities were.
Jason: She mentioned that in her application she was interested in someone who is involved with music, has tattoos and likes cooking.
Laura: I was taken that he was a musician with tattoos who can cook.
I said I didn’t peg [him] for that.
Jason: We discussed our tattoos and history of where we had gotten them and why we had gotten them. We showed each other our most recent ones.
Laura: The menu is small plates. We each had a soup and then ordered a bunch of appetizers.
Jason: We’re both big food sharers. We had no problem just dipping into each other’s plates for another spoonful. She said she liked making big batches of chili and eating it all week. That is one of my favorite things to do.
Laura: We talked about how cooking is something that can be learned like a musical instrument. He was surprised that I am a very, very amateur musician.
Jason: Laura played me a cover she’d made of “Wagon Wheel” by Old Crow Medicine Show. She’s a great vocalist, and the harmonies she recorded were beautiful. I played her my band’s cover of “Oh Come On” by the Julie Ruin.
Laura: It wasn’t first-datey at all. We had a running joke about things that would be on the record and things that would be off the record.
Jason: She gave me a fist bump within the first few minutes. Whenever one of us said something that the other thought was particularly awesome, we would high-five.
Laura: It was usually something I said. He’d say, “Yes, yes,” and he’d put his hand in the air. It was cheesy but adorable.
Jason: One of the more remarkable things about the date is that we never discussed our professional lives once. We talked about pretty much everything else. The date was refreshingly unpretentious and open.
Laura: I had to keep track [of time] because my car was parked in a garage and I had to be there by 11.
Jason: We were quite happy with hanging out at Baby Wale and calling it an evening.
Laura:We did actually kiss. Over dessert he said something really sweet. I was feeling bold, so I went for it.
Jason: That takes some moxie. And I initiated the other kiss. She ordered a car, so I waited with her in the front of the restaurant where we shared a nice kiss goodnight.
Laura: He said he’s really busy this week and can’t hang out. I told him when it comes to dating, just so you know, I like someone who has time for me. I’ve been low on many people’s priority list before.
Jason: I was impressed with her forthrightness and honesty.
Rate the date
Laura: I told him I would give him a 4.5 or 4.51. He said why not a 5? If I give him a 5 off the bat, he won’t have anything to work for later.
Jason: She said something about a 4 or 4.5 because there is always room for improvement, but I’m going to go ahead and rank it higher. I’m going to go with a 4.61. She’s vivacious, fun, intelligent. I look forward to hanging out with her again.
UPDATE: The couple have been out twice since the date and plan to do so again. Promising ... but Laura says Jason “will become a great friend, but we mutually agreed that a romantic connection isn’t really there.” Awww. ...
No romantic duets for these two.
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