Date Lab: The date has to be going well if people think you’re newlyweds


(Photograph courtesy daters)
August 16, 2013

She’s a laid-back, beer-loving background investigator from Virginia, and he’s a laid-back, beer-loving architect originally from Alabama. Will their casual energy be enough to get sparks flying over dinner at Arlington’s Village Bistro?

Lauren: People in my generation, we don’t really go out on dates anymore. So it was nice to have dinner and just get to know somebody right then and there.

Marco: I don’t usually go on blind dates; actually, I’ve never been on a blind date.

Lauren: I got to the restaurant first and decided to wait for him at the bar up front. I actually asked the bartender what he recommended for someone who was on a blind date, trying to calm the nerves a bit, and he suggested a pomegranate martini, which was the perfect choice.


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Marco: I was about two minutes late. Walking in the door, I saw somebody sitting at a table by themselves texting on her phone, looked like she wasn’t really too excited, and I thought that was going to be my date. But Lauren ended up being right inside at the bar with a big smile on her face. She was cute. Very energetic.

Lauren: He was very tall and very handsome. I like the tall, dark and handsome type of guy.

Marco: We had assumed all the random questions we answered before were going to be laid out in front of us and have some sort of direction, but it ended up being more open-ended.

Lauren: He’s from Alabama, and he’s been in the D.C. area for two years, so he hasn’t gotten that crazy, stressed-out NOVA vibe yet. It was a very refreshing personality, very down-to-earth, honest.

Marco: I felt like she was pretty easy-going. She was more energetic about questions and stuff, but that might just be first-date jitters. She mentioned that she was at a pig roast and everybody was doing keg stands, and she said that she’s never really been good at that. But one guy put her up for a keg stand but didn’t actually pull the lever on the keg. She was up there for like 30 seconds, and everybody was like, Ohhh, really impressed, but she wasn’t even drinking. So she did a fake-out, which I thought was funny.

Lauren: We slowly found out all the things we had in common. We had both been to Italy studying abroad. We both like baseball; he likes the Atlanta Braves, and mine was the Washington Nationals. It was really good. There were no awkward moments.

Marco: We didn’t really talk about careers. That’s one thing with D.C. The first three questions everybody asks you: what do you do, where are you from, how long have you lived in D.C. That’s kind of off-putting at first. I told somebody before who asked me that that I was a plumber, just to see their reaction. But I was curious about hers. We were joking about if she’s going to search my background and find some skeletons in the closet.

Lauren: He was also very funny with the pictures. We definitely meshed well with our humor. We were just having too much fun, I guess, with the camera.

Marco: I bumped into the table of the guy behind me when I was sitting down, and he turned around and was like, “Congratulations! Are you newlyweds?” And I said no, no this is just a first date. But I guess he didn’t speak English so well, so he said congratulations twice more through the night thinking we were newlyweds. We just went along with it and said why not. We had a fun time.

Lauren: We took the last Metro out of Court House, and we were like the only ones at the stop, and we actually got to talk more about his architecture.

Marco: I gave her a hug at the end of the night, and then she went on her way on the Metro. It wasn’t really a romantic goodbye or anything like that; it was a more casual one.

RATE THE DATE

Lauren: Great date, great food. I don’t know. Oh, my goodness, could we go with a 4.5?

Marco: I’d give it a 4, because I did have fun. I’d probably hang out with her again. I don’t know if it’d be romantic, but I got along with her.

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UPDATE: The pair texted back and forth but never made plans to meet up. Lauren says, “Since we don’t know each other that well, I could’ve seen it going either way.” Marco, meanwhile, blamed a busy summer for the lack of plans. Still, Lauren says, it was “a lot of fun for her first blind date.”

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