Date Lab: They chitchat about the past. But is there a future?

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Two area natives share memories over dinner at 1905 Restaurant near U Street, but will they share a spark?

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Interviews by Leah Binkovitz

Terrence: It was kind of tough finding some parking. I happened to notice this lady walking. She seemed to be walking at a nice little pace, like she was trying to get somewhere; something just told me, I think that’s her.

Chandra: I got there first, and I was like, Wouldn’t it be really sad if I got stood up on a blind date?

Terrence: When I got there, I could tell she was nervous. She was already seated, but her hair was nice and stuff like that.

Chandra: He’s a lot shorter than I thought he would be. Not so much my type. I wouldn’t say unattractive: easy on the eyes but not my type.

Terrence: She was born in D.C., but she went to school in Maryland. When I started talking she said, “I can tell that you’re from around here.” I said, “I’m actually not from Maryland; I grew up in Virginia.”

Chandra: He talked a lot about himself, so that was interesting, not necessarily in a good way. He was a talker, so it helps with my nervousness, because it was just easier to ask him questions. He was comfortable with that.

Terrence: She asked if I was married, and I’m not; I’ve never been married. She asked if I had any kids, and I said no, and she said that she had been married before and that she had three kids.

Chandra: I found it strange that a man in his 40s, especially in this area, didn’t marry and didn’t have any children. He just never did. I guess it just kind of never happened for him. I think he said he had the opportunity or there were times when he could have done it or something, but I guess he was more interested in getting his career off the ground. I don’t think I could really date anybody or be involved with anyone who didn’t have children or had never been married, because my fear would be that would be their expectation, especially being relatively young. They’d probably want to have children, and I’m done.

Terrence: She seemed reserved, but, I mean, I could tell she was a lot of fun. When she told me she had three kids, her youngest was 5. I started counting back, and I was like, “Oh, okay, you still like to have some fun.” She started laughing.

Chandra: We both went to HBCs [historically black colleges], and we talked about our experiences. I was a sweetheart in college. I asked him: “Have you ever pledged? Were you ever involved in a fraternity?” And I told him that I was, and that was a big part of my college career, if you will.

Terrence:We seemed to have some of the same tastes as far as drinks are concerned.

Chandra: I did introduce him to a dessert drink, because I wasn’t happy with my dessert, so I had the waitress bring us B-52s, and he had never tried that before, so that was good. He seemed to like it.

Terrence: It has like amaretto, Kahlua, I forget what else, but I was like, “That has milk in it.” She was like, “What, are you lactose-intolerant?” and I said, “No, but it just makes me feel like it’s a drink from like the ’70s.” We had a couple moments where we definitely laughed.

Chandra: He was a gentleman; he walked me to my car. He seemed surprised by how tall I am with heels on. I’m 5-6, but I wear really high heels because I like to be tall. Those particular heels, I was probably 5-9, so I stood above him a little bit.

Terrence: It was a short walk to the corner there, and we walked up, and I think she said, “Oh, here’s the mommy mobile” or something. She said, “Well, I do hugs.” I gave her a hug; I think my butt was out a little bit. She told me she had a nice evening, and then she got in her car.

Rate the date

Terrence: 3. I don’t think there was any romantic interest at all. We were a little older, so we kind of know how to chitchat and have a conversation.

Chandra: 2.5. It wasn’t a bad date; there just weren’t any sparks.

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UPDATE: Despite sharing fond memories and dinner, the two haven’t shared much else. “There has been no contact since the date by either of us,” Terrence says. “I wish I had more to report.” For her first blind date, Chandra says, the experience was interesting and fun, adding, “I would definitely do it again ... with another date.”

 
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