Amanda: I’m like, “Uhh, sometimes I watch movies on a plane?” I don’t really watch TV. If that’s something he likes to connect with people on, that’s a missed connection with me.
Jose:She was like, “I like to do active stuff and go hiking.” I’m not really an outdoorsy guy. [And] I’ve come to realize that my friends are all people who like to go out Saturday nights, clubs in Clarendon or Dupont. She does go dancing, but she doesn’t go out as much as I do.
Amanda: I guess [I don’t go out] as much as I used to. Maybe I’m tired or going out of town, or going to a house party instead. When I do go out, it’s more Adams Morgan or Dupont Circle. ... You’re not gonna catch me over the bridge [in Arlington] when I go out; no, I’m not interested.
Jose: I don’t know how this conversation came up, but we started talking about [the viral music video] “Gangnam Style” by Psy. I’ve only seen the video once, but apparently she’s seen it a bunch of times.
Amanda: I can’t even really remember what we talked about. It wasn’t very memorable for me. It didn’t strike a chord.We talked about, like, smartphones; it was so stupid — what I mean by that is that it’s the sort of conversation you have on a first date. I didn’t really want to flirt with him. I was more inclined to make jokes and just try and talk and hear some stories about him.
Jose: We left; it was 9:30-ish. I said, “Let’s go to Spider Kelly’s.” We played pool [and] skeeball. It felt more relaxed there. And then, coincidentally enough, the “Gangnam Style” song came on, so we started dancing to that.
Amanda: The song came on, and I was like, “We have to do it.” [We left] around 11. We got each other’s numbers, and he told me to text him when I got home. So that was nice. People always want you to text when you’re riding a bike ’cause they think you’re gonna die.
Jose:Before 12 o’clock, I hadn’t heard from her, so I texted. She texted me back immediately and said: “Oh, I’m so sorry, I forgot. I’m actually at the office finishing up some French homework.”
Amanda:I would give [the date] a 4 [out of 5.] Dating is for romantic purposes where you wanna spend a lot of time with somebody and see that person as opposed to other people in a romantic sort of way. So, no, I probably wouldn’t [go on a second date]. But that doesn’t mean I didn’t have fun. He was a good date. There were awkward moments, but I wouldn’t say it was awkward overall.
Jose: The date itself I would rate as a 4. It was fun; I had a great time. Romantically, though, it was a 3. She was trying to be fun and have a good time. I just didn’t have attraction to her.
UPDATE: Any contact or plans since the date? “Nope and nope,” Amanda says. Adds Jose: “It was a fun date, but we did not have as many things in common [as] I wanted.”
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