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    Mothering a post-feminist boy

    Mothering a post-feminist boy

    I was raised by a feminist. Now I have a boy. He has to be told the same things I was.

    Want a confident 10-year-old? Start early

    Want a confident 10-year-old? Start early

    There’s a lot of talk about fostering independence in kids. But what about among toddlers and preschoolers?

    Greeting cards? Books? I don’t see a resemblance

    Greeting cards? Books? I don’t see a resemblance

    Years ago, I couldn’t find thank you cards with a family that looked like mine. Seven years later, my son can’t find book characters that look like him either.

    Baby formula made of raw milk? It’s happening

    Baby formula made of raw milk? It’s happening

    There are parents who are feeding babies homemade formula that includes raw milk.

    Family Filmgoer reviews ‘Avengers: Age of Ultron’

    Family Filmgoer reviews ‘Avengers: Age of Ultron’

    Movie reviews with kids in mind: This week, superheroes battle an evil robot in the Marvel sequel.

    Video

    Baltimore mom, son open up about beating

    Baltimore mom, son open up about beating

    Toya Graham, the mother videotaped slapping her son and pulling him out of a riot this week, says it was very upsetting to see him there. The videotape of the confrontation has been viewed worldwide.

    Teaching myself, and my daughter, to self-soothe

    Teaching myself, and my daughter, to self-soothe

    How could I teach my daughter to self-soothe? Are crutches, like mine, such a bad thing?

    How to decide if in-laws are too close — or close enough for comfort

    How to decide if in-laws are too close —  or close enough for comfort

    An “Everbody Loves Raymond” nearness with an emphasis on love.

    12 tips for reading to your child’s class

    12 tips for reading to your child’s class

    It seems like a simple task: read to the class. It never is that easy. Here are some tips to make the most of it.

    Discussion

    On Parenting: Meghan Leahy, Amy Joyce take questions about parenting

    Join us at 11 a.m. to talk all things parenting.

    How to talk to your infant about ‘Star Wars’

    How to talk to your infant about ‘Star Wars’

    This dad loves “Star Wars,” so, you know, he has to explain his excitement about the new movie to his son. Who’s 6 months old.

    About that Baltimore mom …

    That angry Baltimore mom? I’m angry for her.

    In defense of water

    In defense of water

    Here’s why our bodies need plain, been-around-for-billions-of-years, unsweetened, unflavored water.

    Breaking the cycle of rage in families

    Breaking the cycle of rage in families

    My anger almost ruined my family. I want to simplify as much as I can here how I became a “softer” parent.

    What my twins taught me about gender stereotypes

    What my twins taught me about gender stereotypes

    And then, poof, somewhere around their first birthday, it was as if the gender fairy flitted into our house and waved her magic wand, dusting them both with stereotypes.

    The other side of infertility: I finally joined the elusive mommy club, but did I really belong?

    The other side of infertility: I finally joined the elusive mommy club, but did I really belong?

    Two years ago, the sight of activities I’m now a part of — stroller walks, park play dates, moms’ group meet-ups at Starbucks — would have sent me running for the hills.

    Life after concussions for one young athlete

    Life after concussions for one young athlete

    I was getting ready to bubble wrap this beautiful child and call it a day. Game over. Lesson learned. But that’s not what he was trying to teach me.

    How to teach students not to do everything they are told

    How to teach students not to do everything they are told

    ‘ No evidence supports the contention that most kids are coddled and consequently self-centered, let alone that this is true of more kids today than it was in decades past. (Adults have grumbled about young people in pretty much the same ways for -- well, approximately forever.) But assume for a moment that today’s grumblers were right. How would we raise and teach children if our priority was to make sure they weren’t self-centered? What might help them acquire the inclination to look beyond themselves?’

    Why I’m somewhere between Free Range and Helicopter

    Why I’m somewhere between Free Range and Helicopter

    I don’t want my kids to believe someone is out to get them. Nonetheless, I talk to them about stranger danger and weigh legitimate threats against my kids’ need to grow as independent beings.

    How about a Leave Your Job at Work Day instead?

    How about a Leave Your Job at Work Day instead?

    I don’t need my child to come to work with me, I need to leave my work at my job when I’m with him.

    Family Filmgoer reviews ‘Age of Adaline,’ ‘Paul Blart: Mall Cop 2’

    Family Filmgoer reviews ‘Age of Adaline,’ ‘Paul Blart: Mall Cop 2’

    Movie reviews with kids in mind: This week, a romantic fantasy and an unfunny comedy sequel.

    The time I was accused of child abuse

    The time I was accused of child abuse

    A mother was wrongly accused of slapping her child. Here’s what happened next.

    Why I won’t be participating in Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work Day

    Why I won’t be participating in Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work Day

    I love the idea of Take Our Sons and Daughters to Work Day. I hate the idea of bringing mine.

    My son is a 12-year-old technology addict

    My son is a 12-year-old technology addict

    A plugged-in tween pitches a fit when his gadgets are taken away. Is he headed down a dangerous path?

    Have I disappeared since I became a mom?

    Have I disappeared since I became a mom?

    She became a mother and disappeared. Now, what she wouldn’t do for just a little attention.

    There is a right way to talk to your kids about money

    There is a right way to talk to your kids about money

    Start by teaching them that there are benefits in waiting for things.

    What we’re reading: ‘Up in the Garden and Down in the Dirt’

    What we’re reading: ‘Up in the Garden and Down in the Dirt’

    When he asked where worms go in the wintertime, I knew just what book to read to him.

    Businesses and breastfeeding

    Businesses and breastfeeding

    Businesses have a long way to go as far as understanding breastfeeding laws. Moms are using social media to make sure they understand.

    My life as the mom of twins (also titled: Stop telling me to be careful what you wish for!)

    My life as the mom of twins (also titled: Stop telling me to be careful what you wish for!)

    I stared in silence when the nurse announced I was pregnant with twins. She cheerfully added, “Be careful what you wish for!”

    Aviva Goldfarb crafts tools and tips for easy, healthy family meals

    Aviva Goldfarb crafts tools and tips for easy, healthy family meals

    Goldfarb’s long been spreading the joy of sharing homemade meals.

    How a puppy reminded us what it means to be a family

    How a puppy reminded us what it means to be a family

    We got a puppy who reminded us just what we’re all about.

    Why it’s not easy to be a dad in a mom’s world

    Why it’s not easy to be a dad in a mom’s world

    Though there’s a seismic shift underway, the world of parenting is still ruled by mothers. So upon introducing myself to a mom in a child-focused environment, I try to quickly and gracefully communicate three things.

    Please hush, little baby

    Please hush, little baby

    For parents, sleep is priceless. It gives us patience. Clarity. Focus. Functionality. For children, however, bedtime is something to avoid

    Family Filmgoer reviews ‘Monkey Kingdom’ and ‘Unfriended’

    Family Filmgoer reviews ‘Monkey Kingdom’ and ‘Unfriended’

    Movie reviews with kids in mind: This week, a Disneynature documentary about a troop of macaque monkeys.

    What happened when my 4-year-old told me she was fat

    What happened when my 4-year-old told me she was fat

    I was horrified that my off-handed comments about my own appearance had added up to a perfectly normal preschooler with a poor body image.

    Michelle Obama and Jimmy Fallon inspire moms to create a dance video of their own

    Three sisters share their take on the Evolution of the Mom Dance

    Why I took swimming lessons at age 41

    Why I took swimming lessons at age 41

    Mom, why don’t YOU have to learn anything new? Why is it always me? He had a point.

    Why I’m not worried about my late-blooming teen

    Why I’m not worried about my late-blooming teen

    My son may not be the kid with the 4.2 GPA or the crazy SAT scores, but he’s more than enough.

    Column

    Can a 5-year-old with a case of hero worship become his own man?

    Can a 5-year-old with a case of hero worship become his own man?

    Don’t worry. Sometime between the ages of 5 and 7 (and often much later), a child will begin to “grow into himself.”

    Column

    Managing our free-ranging fears

    Managing our free-ranging fears

    We walked home and watched our siblings. It was called childhood. And it prepared us for adulthood.

    Discussion

    On Parenting: Meghan Leahy takes questions about parenting

    Join us at 11 a.m. to talk all things parenting.

    Video

    Parents of 'free-range' kids to sue Montgomery County

    Parents of 'free-range' kids to sue Montgomery County

    The lawyer for Danielle and Alexander Meitiv says the couple plans to take Montgomery County to court over an incident during which police picked up their children and held them without alerting the parents.

    Teaching a child about death

    Teaching a child about death

    Don’t be afraid, despite how uncomfortable the conversation can be.

    Video

    Police release 911 call reporting unaccompanied 'free-range' children

    Police release 911 call reporting unaccompanied 'free-range' children

    Montgomery County Police released the audio from the 911 call reporting Danielle and Alexander Meitiv's children, 10 and 6, walking down the street unaccompanied. Montgomery County police said that a call came in to check on the children’s welfare shortly before 5 p.m.

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    Police release 911 call reporting unaccompanied children

    Police release 911 call reporting unaccompanied children

    Montgomery County Police released the audio from the 911 call reporting Danielle and Alexander Meitiv's children, 10 and 6, walking down the street unaccompanied. Montgomery County police said that a call came in to check on the children’s welfare shortly before 5 p.m.

    At family camps, parents and kids test out camp life, together

    At family camps, parents and kids test out camp life, together

    Offered in a range of formats — as a camp’s sole program or as an add-on feature — and catering to various groups, family camps have surged in popularity.

    Is your child a reluctant reader/writer? Take them to a show.

    Is your child a reluctant reader/writer? Take them to a show.

    Is your daughter one smart cookie but not much of a reader? Or maybe you know a boy who can’t put down his book but envelopes himself in a dark cloud of misery when someone mentions writing about that book. Here’s something that may help: introduce them to a literary rock star. Take them to a children’s book signing.

    My income barely pays for daycare, but I won’t stop working

    My income barely pays for daycare, but I won’t stop working

    Wouldn’t it make more sense to give up working altogether and be a full-time stay-at-home mom?

    Being the little brother of a big brother with autism

    Being the little brother of a big brother with autism

    Brotherly support is still strong, but may look different when your older sibling has autism.

    A mom using her body

    A mom using her body

    Playing soccer with my son brings joy, and shame.

    Listen to Your Mother 2015: Get off my field!

    Listen to Your Mother 2015: Get off my field!

    Listen to Your Mother is a series of shows nationwide where writers share their essays about parenthood. On stage.

    When does racism begin?

    When does racism begin?

    Years ago, I made a fast friend in the daughter of our maid. Our mothers wouldn’t let us have a sleep over. That harsh lesson taught me about racism at a very young age.

    Family Filmgoer reviews ‘The Longest Ride,’ ‘Furious 7’ and more

    Family Filmgoer reviews ‘The Longest Ride,’ ‘Furious 7’ and more

    Movie reviews with kids in mind: This week, an adaptation of a Nicholas Sparks novel.

    Why I always accept invitations to ‘Mom Wine Nights’

    Why I always accept invitations to  ‘Mom Wine Nights’

    Everyone stops posturing and judging long enough to get real

    10 ways to help your child be a good conversationalist

    10 ways to help your child be a good conversationalist

    The basics, such as not interrupting and saying “please” and “thank you,” lay the foundation upon which we add the softer skills that turn a bore into someone with whom conversing is a pleasure.

    What to do when parenting styles don’t align

    What to do when parenting styles don’t align

    A dad travels for work and then caves in to a 6-year-old when he’s home. Meghan Leahy advises.

    What it means to be a sister

    What it means to be a sister

    Relationships between sisters are not only usually the strongest in families, they’re also the most enduring and life changing.

    The love-hate relationship with my breast pump

    The love-hate relationship with my breast pump

    The freedom a breast pump provides also comes with more than a few issues.

    Evidence? We don’t need no stinkin’ evidence!

    Never mind what the studies show.

    How pregnancy and birth overseas is so different than in the U.S.

    How pregnancy and birth overseas is so different than in the U.S.

    I live in the Netherlands. The fact that I managed to negotiate delivering my baby in a birthing center rather than on the occasionally-Swiffered floor of my live/workspace already felt like major victory.

    Video

    Obama: 'I need prayer'

    Obama: 'I need prayer'

    Speaking at the White House Easter Prayer Breakfast, President Obama said that with his daughters looking into college, he starts "tearing up," and needs prayers to help him. He also mused on "the glorious resurrection of our savior."

    I had a home birth and I’m not brave or stupid

    I had a home birth and I’m not brave or stupid

    My hospital birth was, in short, a nightmare. Here’s why I decided to do a home-birth the second time around.

    Breast milk purchased online isn’t always 100 percent breast milk

    Breast milk purchased online isn’t always 100 percent breast milk

    A study finds that 10% of milk in marketplaces contains cow’s milk and can cause problems for infants.

    About that parental anxiety….

    About that parental anxiety….

    News of the recent plane crash brought up my parental anxiety.

    How young is too young to talk about underage drinking?

    How young is too young to talk about underage drinking?

    Think 8 years old is too young to start talking about the dangers of underage drinking? Don’t.

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    Researchers: Surprising babies helps them learn more

    Researchers: Surprising babies helps them learn more

    Researchers at Johns Hopkins University say an infant learns better from an object when it acts in a way that is out of the ordinary, defying innate expectations.

    Family Filmgoer reviews ‘Furious 7,’ ‘Home,’ ‘Get Hard’ and more

    Family Filmgoer reviews ‘Furious 7,’ ‘Home,’ ‘Get Hard’ and more

    Movie reviews with kids in mind: This week, a super-sized sequel featuring impossible stunts.

    Getting over our fears — for our kids’ sakes

    Getting over our fears — for our kids’ sakes

    I was terrified of animals, but decided to get over it for my kids’ sakes.

    Should family dinner trump extracurriculars?

    Should family dinner trump extracurriculars?

    Making family dinners a priority isn’t always easy. At times over the years we said no to teams or activities that would keep our kids out for the dinner hour too often.

    Discussion

    On Parenting: Meghan Leahy and Amy Joyce took questions about parenting

    Meghan Leahy, a parenting coach with Positively Parenting, will talk about parenting children of all ages.

    Discussion

    On Parenting: Meghan Leahy and Amy Joyce took questions about parenting

    Meghan Leahy, a parenting coach with Positively Parenting, will talk about parenting children of all ages.

    Does parent time matter for kids? Your questions answered

    Does parent time matter for kids? Your questions answered

    Reader questions poured in about a new study that found it’s how, not how much time parents spend with kids that matters. The authors of the study take on their critics

    Helping a hormonal tween

    Helping a hormonal tween

    A mother tries to keep an even keel.

    Is the mean mommy voice better than yelling?

    Is the mean mommy voice better than yelling?

    The mean mommy voice could just be yelling in disguise.

    The question I always asked before
    I let my kid go on any play date

    The question I always asked before <br> I let my kid go on any play date

    “Do you keep guns in your house?” led to the most illuminating of answers.

    Column

    Proof that working mothers need to stop beating themselves up

    Proof that working mothers need to stop beating themselves up

    COLUMN | We have, at long last, scientific proof that more of mom isn’t necessarily better.

    Video

    3 myths about spending time with your kids

    3 myths about spending time with your kids

    Do parents spend enough time with their kids? That was the question The Post's Brigid Schulte posed in her story about a groundbreaking new study, which found it’s how you spend your time, not how much, that has the biggest impact on kids.

    I may be a single mom, but I’m not doing it alone

    I may be a single mom, but I’m not doing it alone

    My son’s terrible twos are nothing compared to my terrible teens. Thanks, mom.

    Introducing kids to gardening

    Introducing kids to gardening

    Ways to get your kids into the garden, and why you should

    Column

    A visit that makes a difference

    A visit that makes a difference

    Home-visiting programs make for healthier, school-ready kids. Let’s keep them going.

    They eat them because they love them

    They eat them because they love them

    “I’ll eat you up, I love you so.”

    Letting our children go and learning to be okay with that

    Letting our children go and learning to be okay with that

    Too often we stifle healthy growth and independence under the guise of keeping our children safe. I want my kids to have the confidence to explore the world. But what if I was wrong?

    What We’re Reading: The Iridescence of Birds: A book about Henri Matisse

    What We’re Reading: The Iridescence of Birds: A book about Henri Matisse

    A lovely read that is about much more than Henri Matisse -- it’s about childhood and inspiring greatness

    When one child’s rules are different than the others

    When one child’s rules are different than the others

    Having three kids with similar needs is tough. When one has different needs, it’s nearly impossible.

    Family Filmgoer reviews ‘Home,’ ‘Insurgent’ and more

    Family Filmgoer reviews ‘Home,’ ‘Insurgent’ and more

    Movie reviews with kids in mind: This week, a delightful animated feature about an alien invasion of Earth.

    How my time in the NICU taught me to be a mom

    How my time in the NICU taught me to be a mom

    The time she spent in the NICU taught her how to be a mother.

    Ashton Kutcher just wants to change his kid’s diaper, man

    Ashton Kutcher just wants to change his kid’s diaper, man

    The newish father has launched a campaign to pressure retailers into adding changing stations in their men’s rooms.

    Finding the right help at the right time

    Finding the right help at the right time

    Parenting: you need help from the beginning. As with all of life, it’s a matter of finding the right help.

    Her husband is emotionally abusing her son. Now what?

    Her husband is emotionally abusing her son. Now what?

    In this situation, a mother must defend her child, or regret her inaction in the years to come.

    Am I too sensitive about adoption?

    Am I too sensitive about adoption?

    Am I too sensitive about my adopted sons? There’s a difference between sensitivity and calling someone out when they say something they shouldn’t.

    Why curiosity is important for parents, too

    Why curiosity is important for parents, too

    Curiosity is an underrated quality in parenting, I think. Here’s how to have fun and why that’s important.

    Performance evaluation. By your toddler

    Performance evaluation. By your toddler

    Hi, Mom. I have a few things to tell you about your recent performance. Come see me.

    How to travel with kids

    How to travel with kids

    In three months, my husband and I traveled with a toddler and infant from Washington to Indonesia, Indonesia to California, California to Texas, Texas to California, and then back to Indonesia. Here’s how we survived.

    The dreaded science fair project

    The dreaded science fair project

    It’s science fair time for many. Which means it’s also time to ask how much is too much parental involvement?

    How to feed your family by cooking once every 6 weeks

    How to feed your family by cooking once every 6 weeks

    Who has time to cook a family meal? My block does, now that we created a soup collective. Here’s how we do it.

    What happens when the youngest child becomes the middle child

    What happens when the youngest child becomes the middle child

    Her once youngest son is finding his way as being the middle child now.

    I’m a dad. So why do people call me ‘Mrs.’?

    I’m a dad. So why do people call me ‘Mrs.’?

    Dads can lean in, too.

    For parents with a newly diagnosed child with Down syndrome

    For parents with a newly diagnosed child with Down syndrome

    All children come with challenges. However, in the absence of a diagnosis, parents don’t start their child rearing journey with lists of potential problems.