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    A visit that makes a difference

    A visit that makes a difference

    Home-visiting programs make for healthier, school-ready kids. Let’s keep them going.

    They eat them because they love them

    They eat them because they love them

    “I’ll eat you up, I love you so.”

    Letting our children go and learning to be okay with that

    Letting our children go and learning to be okay with that

    Too often we stifle healthy growth and independence under the guise of keeping our children safe. I want my kids to have the confidence to explore the world. But what if I was wrong?

    What We’re Reading: The Iridescence of Birds: A book about Henri Matisse

    What We’re Reading: The Iridescence of Birds: A book about Henri Matisse

    A lovely read that is about much more than Henri Matisse -- it’s about childhood and inspiring greatness

    When one child’s rules are different than the others

    When one child’s rules are different than the others

    Having three kids with similar needs is tough. When one has different needs, it’s nearly impossible.

    Family Filmgoer reviews ‘Home,’ ‘Insurgent’ and more

    Family Filmgoer reviews ‘Home,’ ‘Insurgent’ and more

    Movie reviews with kids in mind: This week, a delightful animated feature about an alien invasion of Earth.

    How my time in the NICU taught me to be a mom

    How my time in the NICU taught me to be a mom

    The time she spent in the NICU taught her how to be a mother.

    Ashton Kutcher just wants to change his kid’s diaper, man

    Ashton Kutcher just wants to change his kid’s diaper, man

    The newish father has launched a campaign to pressure retailers into adding changing stations in their men’s rooms.

    Finding the right help at the right time

    Finding the right help at the right time

    Parenting: you need help from the beginning. As with all of life, it’s a matter of finding the right help.

    Her husband is emotionally abusing her son. Now what?

    Her husband is emotionally abusing her son. Now what?

    In this situation, a mother must defend her child, or regret her inaction in the years to come.

    Am I too sensitive about adoption?

    Am I too sensitive about adoption?

    Am I too sensitive about my adopted sons? There’s a difference between sensitivity and calling someone out when they say something they shouldn’t.

    Why curiosity is important for parents, too

    Why curiosity is important for parents, too

    Curiosity is an underrated quality in parenting, I think. Here’s how to have fun and why that’s important.

    Performance evaluation. By your toddler

    Performance evaluation. By your toddler

    Hi, Mom. I have a few things to tell you about your recent performance. Come see me.

    How to travel with kids

    How to travel with kids

    In three months, my husband and I traveled with a toddler and infant from Washington to Indonesia, Indonesia to California, California to Texas, Texas to California, and then back to Indonesia. Here’s how we survived.

    The dreaded science fair project

    The dreaded science fair project

    It’s science fair time for many. Which means it’s also time to ask how much is too much parental involvement?

    How to feed your family by cooking once every 6 weeks

    How to feed your family by cooking once every 6 weeks

    Who has time to cook a family meal? My block does, now that we created a soup collective. Here’s how we do it.

    What happens when the youngest child becomes the middle child

    What happens when the youngest child becomes the middle child

    Her once youngest son is finding his way as being the middle child now.

    I’m a dad. So why do people call me ‘Mrs.’?

    I’m a dad. So why do people call me ‘Mrs.’?

    Dads can lean in, too.

    For parents with a newly diagnosed child with Down syndrome

    For parents with a newly diagnosed child with Down syndrome

    All children come with challenges. However, in the absence of a diagnosis, parents don’t start their child rearing journey with lists of potential problems.

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    Don’t be ‘that’ sports parent

    Don’t be ‘that’ sports parent

    Here’s some advice for parents who want to be supportive without becoming viral sensations.

    Five suggestions for babyproofing your job interview

    Five suggestions for babyproofing your job interview

    Once upon a time, I was a fan of job interviews. That all changed after I’d switched careers, had a baby and decided to spend the first year at home, taking care of her.

    Family Filmgoer reviews ‘Insurgent’ and ‘Cinderella’

    Family Filmgoer reviews ‘Insurgent’ and ‘Cinderella’

    Movie reviews with kids in mind: This week, the second installment of the Veronica Roth sci-fi series.

    I’m grocery shopping all wrong

    I’m grocery shopping all wrong

    We all do it, but maybe, like this author, you’re also grocery shopping all wrong

    Our children are real, and so are their donors

    Our children are real, and so are their donors

    While singular in their disdain, Dolce and Gabbana express an unease that many of us, gay and straight, have around third-party reproduction. Is it ethical to pay a donor or a surrogate? Should a donor be able to remain forever anonymous?

    Give a little girl some space to learn

    Give a little girl some space to learn

    A mother wonders whether to worry about her 4-year-old’s anger when she can’t do something correctly.

    Discussion

    On Parenting: Meghan Leahy and Amy Joyce take questions about parenting

    Meghan Leahy, a parenting coach with Positively Parenting, will talk about parenting children of all ages.

    When your child speaks a language you don’t

    When your child speaks a language you don’t

    The transition to daycare feels even more acute because it takes place in another language: Noa is entering a world I literally cannot understand.

    How to help kids love to read

    How to help kids love to read

    Parents can do a lot to cultivate lifelong readers. Here’s how one writer-mom does it.

    My boyfriend’s daughter is smoking pot. Do I tell him?

    My boyfriend’s daughter is smoking pot. Do I tell him?

    Dr. Andrea weighs in: Should you tell on your boyfriend’s weed-loving kid? And what’s a serious enough problem for marriage counseling?

    What’s wrong with “Amazon Family?” Dads take on “Amazon Mom”

    What’s wrong with “Amazon Family?” Dads take on “Amazon Mom”

    A discount program for the parents of toddlers is called “Amazon Family” in other parts of the world, but “Amazon Mom” in the United States. Some active Dads are seeking to change that

    WWJD? Asking for a friend

    WWJD? Asking for a friend

    I’m not sure where I stand on God and religion, so what do I teach my son?

    Will the rise of ‘over-sharenting’ mean the end of privacy for our children?

    Will the rise of ‘over-sharenting’ mean the end of privacy for our children?

    Parents find an outlet through social media, but that might ultimately pose safety risks for minors.

    If you’re not my baby, I don’t want to hear your opinions on breastfeeding

    If you’re not my baby, I don’t want to hear your opinions on breastfeeding

    We live in an age when people feel like they can weigh in on my parenting choices. It’s the worst.

    Answering kids’ questions about LGBT

    Answering kids’ questions about LGBT

    8 ways to talk to kids about LGBT issues

    Don’t bash parents for using Uber

    Don’t bash parents for using Uber

    Don’t bash harried families for turning to Uber and the On Demand economy to solve the logistical nightmare of rigid work schedules designed for the 1950s, kid activities and traffic. How about bringing the workplace into the 21st century?

    Family Filmgoer reviews ‘Cinderella’ and ‘Run All Night’

    Family Filmgoer reviews ‘Cinderella’ and ‘Run All Night’

    Kids 5 and older will happily lose themselves in Disney’s new live-action take on the classic fairy tale.

    Discussion

    On Parenting: Teaching kids about money

    Parenting and youth development expert Deborah Gilboa will answer questions and offer advice on teaching kids about money.

    Why watching TV can actually be good for toddlers

    Why watching TV can actually be good for toddlers

    New research shows that after watching an educational children’s television program, toddlers can learn to count to five and read a simple map.

    Trying to be a good post-divorce mom

    Trying to be a good post-divorce mom

    One role I was always proud of was being a mother. Fast-forward to a few months post-divorce, and it’s an entirely different picture.

    7 ways to nip narcissism in the bud

    7 ways to nip narcissism in the bud

    Here are ways to make sure your kid doesn’t end up being a narcissist, even if you raise them with self-esteem.

    Why I post pictures of my children breastfeeding

    Why I post pictures of my children breastfeeding

    Breastfeeding—like so many aspects of parenting—is wondrous and fleeting.

    How to help your child get to sleep

    How to help your child get to sleep

    You cannot talk a young child into feeling safe, but helping them feel secure will get them to bed.

    The day I broke my baby

    The day I broke my baby

    As I sat holding my son in the hospital waiting for scans to confirm what I feared most — that he had a skull fracture — I was told repeatedly by nurses and doctors that they see this all the time.

    When should you start teaching your kids about money? Now.

    When should you start teaching your kids about money? Now.

    Expert advice on when and how to talk to your children about spending, saving and donating.

    My daughter stood up to a bully

    My daughter stood up to a bully

    My normally shy daughter finally stood up to her tormenter and found the strength in a pen.

    Are you raising a bully?

    Are you raising a bully?

    Some of your actions may be causing your child to be a bully

    I was a competitive swimmer, and I want my 6-year-old son to get serious at the pool.

    I was a competitive swimmer, and I want my 6-year-old son to get serious at the pool.

    Dr. Andrea advises parents who want their kid to be a swim star, and a boyfriend who’s afraid his girlfriend isn’t smart enough for him.

    My iPhone addiction was making me a terrible mom

    My iPhone addiction was making me a terrible mom

    She realized she had become addicted to her iPhone and it was hurting her family. Here’s what she learned when she put it down for a week.

    Grit: The key ingredient to your kids’ success

    Grit: The key ingredient to your kids’ success

    We’ve made our kids too soft, and have to teach them the value of having grit if we want them to succeed.

    Family Filmgoer reviews ‘Second Best Exotic Marigold Hotel’

    Family Filmgoer reviews ‘Second Best Exotic Marigold Hotel’

    Movie reviews with kids in mind: This week, take a trip back to India with this sequel.

    Unspoken fantasies of moms of young kids

    Unspoken fantasies of moms of young kids

    Things only a parent would fantasize about.

    My child and me: Figuring out our new life together

    My child and me: Figuring out our new life together

    I expected questions about why Daddy’s body was now dust and bits of bone: I received a request to play hide-and-seek. But that’s exactly why this grief is such a bewildering, disorienting thing.

    On being away from home for the first time as a dad

    On being away from home for the first time as a dad

    A hotel room seems strangely quiet this dad, who is away from home for the first time since his son was born.

    Being like a girl — it’s a good thing

    The next #likeagirl commerical.

    The right response when your child doesn’t want to be ‘bossed around’

    The right response when your child doesn’t want to be ‘bossed around’

    A middle road can make the situation better for all.

    Discussion

    On Parenting: Meghan Leahy takes questions about parenting

    Meghan Leahy, a parenting coach with Positively Parenting, will talk about parenting children of all ages.

    Morning links: Justice Department report finds systemic racial bias in Ferguson

    Plus: Public officials push back on forfeiture reform, Maryland CPS strikes back at “free range parenting,” verdicts in the “Kettle Falls Five” cases

    Do we wish we had the children we read about?

    You can’t swing a National Book Award these days without hitting an Important Literary Novel about a supernaturally gifted child. Why do we love them so?

    Would you call 911 on another parent?

    Would you call 911 on another parent?

    Stories are mounting of people calling the cops on parents who let their older kids attempt a bit of independence.

    Where boys are boys?

    Where boys are boys?

    My son and I were discussing Malala and her fight to go to school like boys do. Then I realized we didn’t need to look at Pakistan to learn about gender discrimination. All we needed to do was attend a hockey game.

    My toddler insists on kindness, and I’m learning

    My toddler insists on kindness, and I’m learning

    Some days I just want to yell and scream. My child is teaching me that’s not the right path.

    The teen years left a gulf between us

    The teen years left a gulf between us

    In my son’s teen years, I didn’t know how to stop my heart from breaking like glass each time he pushed me away.

    ‘Unsubstantiated’ child neglect finding for free-range parents

    ‘Unsubstantiated’ child neglect finding for free-range parents

    The Md. family is not sure what would happen if the children are seen out walking unsupervised.

    Why we need to help moms get back to (the right) work

    Why we need to help moms get back to (the right) work

    LinkedIn sent me a list of suggested jobs. As it turns out, I don’t much want to rejoin the paid workforce at the moment.

    Why dads really don’t complain much

    Why dads really don’t complain much

    Maybe dads don’t complain because they don’t actually want to

    Photo storage solutions — for real

    Photo storage solutions — for real

    How to keep those precious photos of your children from clogging up your smartphone.

    Yes, the internet can make your kids smarter, happier and kinder

    Yes, the internet can make your kids smarter, happier and kinder

    Here are five positive messages to assist in digital parenting.

    Seeking boredom on a 3,000 mile road trip

    Seeking boredom on a 3,000 mile road trip

    One mom banned screens on a trek from New York to Montana with her two children. She’s glad she did.

    Family Filmgoer: ‘McFarland USA’ is a little gem

    Family Filmgoer: ‘McFarland USA’ is a little gem

    Movie reviews with kids in mind: Also this week: “Focus” is fun, but not for under-17s.

    Why kids don’t need a bath every night

    Why kids don’t need a bath every night

    Germaphobes, pay attention: Overly clean living can actually hurt immune systems.

    Should your child be napping?

    Should your child be napping?

    Two things will tell you if napping is a wise choice in your house.

    Dealing with a 4-year-old’s behavior — without using time outs

    Dealing with a 4-year-old’s behavior — without using time outs

    A mother wonders how to get her son to be less aggressive with his siblings.

    Unschooling: What it means and how one family is using it with their kids

    Unschooling: What it means and how one family is using it with their kids

    There’s no sitting in class and no homework for the Hewitts, but there is hunting and tractor-riding.

    Why being civil is important for parents

    Why being civil is important for parents

    I want my kids to be able to see the good amidst the tough realities and help make the good stronger, but these are skills I’m still developing myself.

    Overcoming her fear of lice

    Overcoming her fear of lice

    Ack! Lice. Do we need to be so afraid?

    How to talk to your daughter about fat

    How to talk to your daughter about fat

    It’s become a bad word in our country, but we need to teach our girls that there are good kinds, too.

    What does it take to be a productive parent?

    What does it take to be a productive parent?

    I feel like I’ve been stuck in the cult of busy. I talk so much about how busy I am because I think that makes me feel relevant and important (to whom?). What really constitutes productivity?

    What to do when teens lie

    What to do when teens lie

    The question that remains for most parents is how to minimize or eliminate any lying and what to do when you find that your teen has not been honest.

    What happens when you shame your child

    What happens when you shame your child

    I lived in this world of cajoling a girl in a tutu, forcing her off the carpet and onto the hardwood floor. I’ve said the words that bite.

    Having everything, staples, tears and all

    Having everything, staples, tears and all

    Parenthood, ultimately, is a long lead up to letting our little ones go forth in the world without us.

    Why parents should stop making everything look perfect online

    Why parents should stop making everything look perfect online

    Do I believe in celebrating the beauty of childhood and parenting? Of course. But are we at risk of slipping into a cycle of lies by omission through our online personas? Perhaps.

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    In defense of dads | On Parenting

    In defense of dads | On Parenting

    Daddy blogger Mike Cruse is trying to shatter the stereotypes of the bumbling, uninvolved father.

    Why don’t dads complain about parenthood like moms do?

    Why don’t dads complain about parenthood like moms do?

    Men are increasingly less able to voice negative feelings about parenting, even ones that are entirely understandable.

    What I said when my daughter criticized her body

    What I said when my daughter criticized her body

    I’d been trying to put off the focus on what others (including me) think of their looks for as long as possible. I’d wanted to show my warm love and acceptance in other ways.

    Why schools are failing our boys

    Why schools are failing our boys

    Kids are told to sit still and be quiet. And that’s making them repress their best selves.

    Where are all the anti-vaxxers?

    Where are all the anti-vaxxers?

    Where are all these anti-vaxxers I keep hearing about? she asked her Facebook friends.

    Five lessons for parenting a teenager

    Five lessons for parenting a teenager

    Learning, and making some mistakes.

    How parents can learn to say yes again

    How parents can learn to say yes again

    A mother thinks she says no too often, but doesn’t remember how to say yes.

    Discussion

    On Parenting: Meghan Leahy and Amy Joyce took questions about parenting

    Meghan Leahy, a parenting coach with Positively Parenting, will talk about parenting children of all ages.

    The diary of a snow day, written by a toddler

    The diary of a snow day, written by a toddler

    A toddler tells the tale of her snow day.

    Wintertime blahs? We have more for your kids to do

    Wintertime blahs? We have more for your kids to do

    Need some new ideas to get you and your kids through winter? What about some indoor science experiments?

    Should we stop blogging about our kids?

    Should we stop blogging about our kids?

    Will my children be judged in any way because of their digital footprint, most of which in their young lives they had no say over?

    This is why I won’t write about my children anymore

    This is why I won’t write about my children anymore

    After publishing an essay last year about my teenage daughter’s driving accident, I have decided my kids can no longer be central players in my stories.

    My boyfriend secretly interviewed for jobs on another coast.

    My boyfriend secretly interviewed for jobs on another coast.

    Dr. Andrea advises a reader who’s questioning a partner’s commitment, and a parent who doesn’t want to talk kids.

    Here’s why it’s good to be an older mom

    Here’s why it’s good to be an older mom

    Reasons being an older mom is a good thing. Tiring, but good.

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    Kate, Duchess of Cambridge, urges support for kids' mental health

    Kate, Duchess of Cambridge, urges support for kids' mental health

    Kate Middleton, Duchess of Cambridge and wife of Prince William, spoke in a video on behalf of a British charity called Place2B, that advocates for supporting children's mental health.