Q.Nursery school was a happy experience for my son, but he is now in kindergarten at the same small school and things
aren’t going so well. ¶ The teacher says that he has unprovoked bursts of anger — a complaint that confounded us. Our son has never acted this way at home and he didn’t act like that when he was a nursery student either.
After much prodding, our son finally told us that he gets mad when his teacher picks on some kids more than others and when she jokes about the kids in his class in ways that aren’t so nice. When we asked him for an example, he said that his teacher saw a child picking his nose and she said, “Tommy picks his nose! Everyone do ‘the Tommy’!” and she pretended to pick her own nose. Although our son said that she was just trying to be funny, it makes him angry when she acts like that and then he “blows up like a blowfish.”
These reports have upset us a lot, but we don’t know what our next step should be. Of course, we assured our son that he was right to be bothered when the teacher played favorites and especially when she made fun of a classmate. But we can’t ask that he be moved to another classroom because the school has only one kindergarten, and we don’t want to complain because the teacher might start bullying our son. We decided not to put him into therapy, even though it might help him deal with his teacher’s behavior, but how should we proceed?