Word is that Kim Kardashian and Kanye West have named their daughter. Apparently they decided to break with Kardashian tradition and bypass the “K” names, settling instead on North West. If the reports (in People, TMZ, and E!) are true, it’s an unfortunate choice, to say the least. And it made me think of how people choose names for their children.
My husband and I pored over the Social Security Administration’s annual list of the most popular names to make sure our kid wouldn’t be one of five with the same name in his kindergarten class. We tried to envision the name on a resume, thinking about whether or not it would fit not only a child, but an adult. And we quickly dismissed any name that had a negative association for either of us (the girl across the street who bullied me when I was growing up, for example).
Additionally, my husband had rules about names. Nothing gender-neutral. Nothing too common, because we have such a common last name. Nothing that was a common noun or an adjective (Apple or Blue Ivy, for example). It was exhausting, and particularly with our son, we debated possibilities for months.
The “rules” narrowed it down significantly, then we had to figure out which names both of us could live with. Some people go with family names, and we did that with our kids’ middle names, but we wanted them to have their own first names.
When I was pregnant with our first child, we negotiated for months, then finally agreed on a name for each gender. But it wasn’t easy, and it wasn’t without a ridiculous amount of thought. Admittedly, we overanalyze things, but I think most people put a lot of time and effort into naming their children. You only get one chance, and you don’t want to blow it.
It’s hard to believe that kind of lengthy, though-out process led to ... North. Had it been Kadence, Kamille or Kira, I would have rolled my eyes at the predictable “K,” but the name hardly would have registered. Instead, we’re all sitting here talking about it. But maybe that’s the point?
How did you choose your children’s names? Tell us in the comments section.