In the weeks leading up to Election Day, Joseph Smith asked his partner of 24 years what he wanted to do if Maryland voters approved same-sex marriage.
“When it passes, we’ll talk about it,” Don Starr, a George Mason University professor, told Smith, the first openly gay member of the Havre de Grace City Council.
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The prospect of marrying is no longer a maybe. Over dinner Wednesday, Starr looked across the table at Smith and said, matter-of-factly, “I guess we’ll talk about it now.”
Practical discussions of whether and when to marry are now underway in many of the Maryland households in which, census statistics show, 12,500 same-sex couples already form a family.
Some couples already were legally wed in the District or the handful of states where gay marriage is legal. Other long-standing couples united in commitment ceremonies. Many are now considering intimate civil weddings to ensure that they have the legal protections that marriage affords.
Same-sex weddings are unlikely to cause a rush to the circuit court clerk’s offices on Jan. 2, the day after the law takes effect, when marriage certificates will be issued. But they almost certainly will become more common. Studies suggest that half the same-sex couples living together when gay marriage becomes legal will marry within three years.
Jason Gedeik and Evan Glass plan to get a marriage license just after New Year’s Day, even though they committed to each another before 120 people three years ago at Woodend Sanctuary in Chevy Chase.
“To our friends, family and neighbors, we are a married couple,” said Glass, 35, a communications consultant. “But legally, our marriage has been invisible. There is something to be said for living in a society where the laws recognize your relationship. We hope that with the civil- marriage law, we will be a visibly married couple.”
Boe Ramirez and German Roa both come from devout Latino Christian families. They never expected a public wedding and decided to buy rings a decade ago on a weekend in the New York countryside. That night over dinner, they held “a private ceremony,” committing to one another.
Their lives began to braid together. They moved to Washington and bought a house in Rockville. Cats soon joined their home.
“We have rings, so people would always ask: ‘Are you married?’ ” Ramirez said. “And there was always this weird pause. We realized we want to be married. We look at our bank accounts and bills, and God forbid if something happened to one of us, would the other automatically be taken care of?”
But Ramirez, who does human-resources contracting for the federal government, and Roa, who works in hospitality, did not want to wed in the District when it became legal in 2009. They wanted to be recognized in their own community.
“We don’t want to run to get married,” Ramirez said. “I want to walk to the church at the end of the block. We want to get married in the state where we live.” And they want it traditional, down to the proposal.
“Before Election Day — and now — people ask: ‘Are you going to get married?’ ” Ramirez said. “We say ‘Yes,’ but then we smile at one another over the ‘When?’ Now is the fun part. It’s this game of who gets to propose first.”
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