“I am a boy,” she insisted at age 2. It became a constant theme in struggles with her parents, who eventually concluded she wasn’t just a tomboy. Then, they had to figure out how to handle it.
Tyler, 5, gets a haircut in March in his family's Maryland home. His parents allowed him to present himself as a boy when he was 4, after he was diagnosed with gender identity disorder. The Washington Post took a number of steps to protect the identity of Tyler and his family, including not publishing details about where they live and go to church and school in the Washington area. We used only the middle names of Tyler's parents and sister to protect their privacy outside their community, where their situation is widely known.Tyler's name in the story is the one his parents would have given him if he'd been born a boy. We are publishing photos of Tyler with his parents' permission. Nikki Kahn/The Washington Post Buy Photo