This is also a great time to focus on reconnecting with your spouse or partner. Johnson suggests making a date to formally air out your relationship, where you sit down together and communicate about issues ranging from finances and sex to future goals.
Haight recommends planning a vacation or even just an outing where you focus on nothing more than having fun with your partner. “Routine can be deadening to a relationship,” she explains. “It’s important to make certain you remember why you fell in love with each other and why you want to spend your life with this person.”
Haight also believes in the power of creating a spring and summer wish list, whether it’s on your own, with a partner or with the entire family. Start by brainstorming ideas to make the warmer months special: Do you want to scope out a new country? Plant tomatoes? Ride your bike more? Visit a particular museum or water park? Blow bubbles together in the back yard? If all of your dreams for the season are written down and posted on the fridge, it can be inspiring — “and a whole lot harder to ignore,” says the psychologist.
Even if you can’t get away for spring or summer break, it’s essential to take some time to relax and decompress, says Haight, who swears by “mini meditations” as a way to manage stress and stay focused. Spend a few minutes closing your eyes, clearing your mind and taking some deep breaths, she recommends, “and then visualize positive thoughts, and really allow the feelings associated with those thoughts to settle into your body.”
Last but not least, as you think about your personal plans for overall renovation, pick at least one activity that will help you look your best — whether it’s giving yourself a bright pedicure, getting a massage, buying some cute flip-flops or changing things up with a new haircut. “When people look good, they feel good,” says Johnson.
In that vein, my husband and I have just planned our first real childless getaway in many years, and I’m looking forward to renewing ourselves and our relationship by making time for adult conversation, playing tennis together, doing some yoga and getting a facial, for starters.
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