Up until Weiner’s cringeworthy news conference Tuesday, I had felt sorry for his wife, Huma Abedin, even though I couldn’t understand how she was able to condone his online antics in the first place. I have nothing against Abedin. I like her: She is a lovely, gracious, intelligent woman. I ache for her need to come to the rescue of this man who has betrayed her so often and will likely do it again. I ache for all women who find themselves in this position. And yet, there she stood in front of the cameras, this modern American career woman, by her man, saying she had forgiven him, loved him and believed in him. Just what exactly does she believe in? The only thing she can believe in for sure is that he will continue his infidelity.
Though her friends say she is strong and resolute and defiant, sadly she makes all women look like weak and helpless victims. She was not standing there in a position of strength. It was such a setback for women everywhere.
After Weiner was forced to resign his congressional seat in 2011, he and his wife faded into the background to repair their marriage and have a baby. Last summer, they gave a heartwarming interview to People magazine and sat for pictures with the baby, Abedin saying Weiner was devoting his time to being the best dad and husband he could be. He was, in fact, sending pictures of his penis to a 22-year-oldwoman, offering to get her an apartment and begging to meet with her, under the name Carlos Danger.
When the first scandal hit, I just thought Weiner was a grandiose, narcissistic, entitled creep. Now it is clear he must be mentally ill as well. That he has no respect for women, including his own wife, is also clear.
Yet when he confessed his newest transgressions to his wife last fall, what did she do? She joined him for yet another interview, this time for the New York Times. Abedin agreed that her husband should run for mayor of New York. She knew full well that the old stories would be rehashed and, in all probability, the new ones would come out. So why did she do it?
Michael McManus, president of Marriage Savers and author of the online column Ethics and Religion, sees Weiner as the villain here. McManus says that Weiner should have heeded the Book of Proverbs, which is full of warnings for men who stray. He quotes Proverbs 6:12-15: “A scoundrel and villain, who goes about with a corrupt mouth, who winks with his eye, signals with his feet and motions with his fingers [and other things in Weiner’s case] who plots evil with deceit in his heart – he always stirs up dissension, therefore disaster will overtaken him in an instant; he will suddenly be destroyed – without remedy.”