Carolyn Hax

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Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax takes your questions and tackles your problems.

  • May 1, 2015

Her daughter wants financial help in renting a new place, but Mom is worried about alienating the family.

  • Apr 25, 2015

Children use simple words to express complicated feelings, but such a term presents a teaching opportunity.

  • Apr 24, 2015

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax took your questions and tackled your problems.

  • Apr 24, 2015

After coming through for a niece, a reader’s sister now wants her to buy equal gifts for her other children.

  • Apr 23, 2015

A reader senses she’s losing her former best friend, who has a new life. Is their relationship salvageable?

  • Apr 22, 2015

A sibling needs to control the urge to reveal the affair and instead invest herself in their bid to patch things up.

  • Apr 21, 2015

A woman grieving over the loss of her mother wonders why her sister isn’t showing the same reaction.

  • Apr 20, 2015

A wife will know whether a secretive husband really wants to change if she is silent on consequences — for now.

  • Apr 19, 2015

A woman with no kids was offended that her sister’s barbs targeted childless people. Now she’s avoiding her.

  • Apr 18, 2015

A sister unsure of the best course of action is flustered and embarrassed for her brother and his fiancee.

  • Apr 17, 2015

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax took your questions and tackled your problems.

  • Apr 17, 2015

A longtime couple are foreigners in their adopted country, but the next step could end their relationship.

  • Apr 16, 2015

A mother must find the strength to protect her children. A family therapist may need to intervene for guidance.

  • Apr 15, 2015

Divorcees keep their exes’ names for any number of good reasons. Try not to take it personally.

  • Apr 14, 2015

A woman feels overwhelmed by children, aging parents, a sick husband and workplace stress.

  • Apr 13, 2015

A friend who’s down on his luck moves into a couple’s house — and brings an uninvited overnight guest.

  • Apr 12, 2015

A friend’s pregnancy and a rival’s proposal create turmoil for two sets of nuptuals.

  • Apr 11, 2015

Her boyfriend gives her a hard time when she insists that they see each other.

  • Apr 10, 2015

How can a mother help her daughter with a decision when she has no personal experience to draw from?

  • Apr 10, 2015

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax took your questions and tackled your problems.

  • Apr 10, 2015

A young woman waits for that marriage proposal that may never arrive. How long should she wait?

  • Apr 9, 2015

Getting invited to two friends’ weddings could quickly empty a wallet. Is it worth going to both?

  • Apr 8, 2015

If a friend invites a friend of hers to your parents’ home, you’re completely justified in saying “no.”

  • Apr 7, 2015

She won’t ask why he made a certain restaurant choice because she thinks she won’t get a straight answer.

  • Apr 6, 2015

After a series of losses — friends, pets, a job — a reader can no longer use logic to reason that life is good.

  • Apr 5, 2015

She is trying to decide between two men: One is best for her kids and the other one is a better fit for her.

  • Apr 4, 2015

A 10-year-old daughter wants to call her stepmother “mom” too, but her biological mother stands opposed.

  • Apr 3, 2015

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax takes your questions and tackles your problems.

  • Apr 3, 2015

Repairing a falling-out between siblings could require someone taking that conciliatory first step.

  • Apr 2, 2015

A mother doesn’t want to miss her kids’ childhood, but she’s uncertain if quitting her job is the right decision.

  • Apr 1, 2015

A woman’s longtime BFF is hyper-competitive and copies everything she does.

  • Mar 31, 2015

She plans to visit her boyfriend once a month, but Mom wants her to realize things will probably change.

  • Mar 30, 2015

A mother who keeps firearms at home takes offense at the scolding from the mom of her son’s friend.

  • Mar 29, 2015

She is thinking about boycotting her brother’s wedding because her boyfriend will not be invited.

  • Mar 28, 2015

A co-worker expects more extravagant wedding gifts from her friends. Think again.

  • Mar 27, 2015

After a dramatic weight loss, how to shake off the negative feelings about gaining new attention from those who previously ignored her?

  • Mar 27, 2015

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax took your questions and tackled your problems.

  • Mar 27, 2015

A reader beginning grad school and a new career asks if a new first name could add professional gravitas.

  • Mar 26, 2015

A parent’s criticism of some comments after the death of a young child should be taken in stride.

  • Mar 25, 2015

An open, warm relationship is her best argument against the music’s misogyny, anger and vulgarity.

  • Mar 24, 2015

They are anticipating trouble with Grandma, who has rigid views on gender roles.

  • Mar 23, 2015

Advice to a reader: Get over any worries about being rude and reclaim the time your job demands.

  • Mar 22, 2015

She lost her mother last year, and his father has days to live. Should they cancel an event that would bring them joy?

  • Mar 21, 2015

A reader warns that issues that are not resolved can explode at the most inopportune times.

  • Mar 20, 2015

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax took your questions and tackled your problems.

  • Mar 20, 2015

While she’s away, readers offer their own advice.

  • Mar 19, 2015

Readers weigh in on topics ranging from the “right” engagement ring to communicating with children.

  • Mar 18, 2015

They don’t understand people who expect an inheritance and those who won’t help with a dying parent.

  • Mar 17, 2015

While the columnist is away, readers offer advice on organizers-in-chief and alternative birthday gifts for a child.

  • Mar 16, 2015

While the columnist is away, readers offer advice on raising children and helping them deal with divorce.

  • Mar 15, 2015

Much can be gained when you appreciate a child’s or partner’s unique ways.

  • Mar 14, 2015

Profane outbursts of other relatives, however, hint at a deeper problem affecting the family dynamics.

  • Mar 13, 2015

Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax takes your questions and tackles your problems.

  • Mar 13, 2015

Trust and betrayal are at the core of a fragile relationship after a woman learns of her husband’s secret.

  • Mar 12, 2015

On a family vacation without his girlfriend, the man confided that he is unhappy being with his live-in mate.

  • Mar 11, 2015

A man whose unfaithful fiancee equates his forgiveness with not caring enough needs to walk away.

  • Mar 10, 2015

A new mother’s feelings are real, and hearing her husband dismiss them as petty certainly doesn’t help.

  • Mar 9, 2015

Until she understands and takes care of her own needs, a woman has to resist competing pulls for her loyalty.

  • Mar 8, 2015

A woman feels that since her sister is younger and not as stable, she should welcome her advice.

  • Mar 7, 2015
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Carolyn Hax started her advice column in 1997, after five years as a copy editor and news editor in Style and none as a therapist. The column includes cartoons by “relationship cartoonist” Nick Galifianakis — Carolyn's ex-husband — and appears in over 200 newspapers.

Besides the daily column, Carolyn has a weekly live online discussion (noon Fridays), the Hax Philes forum and a Facebook page. She also has a policy of saying yes when NPR calls but avoids TV like something forgotten in the back of the fridge; the feeling appears to be mutual.

Carolyn lives in Massachusetts with her husband, three boys and medium brown dog, Billy, but sees D.C. as "home."  

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