HARTFORD, Conn. — More than six months after losing loved ones in the mass shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School, families say that dealing with questions over how to distribute the millions of dollars sent to help Newtown heal is instead causing them more pain.
How much should go to the families of the slain children and educators? To the families of the children who witnessed the massacre but survived and will need to pay for years of therapy? Or to the Newtown community at large? And who gets to make those decisions?
The largest Newtown charity had planned an initial distribution of less than half of its money to victims’ families, who raised questions about how the fund arrived at the number. The place they were then given in the process has been difficult, unpleasant and something they shouldn’t have had to worry about on top of their grief, families say.
So some families are joining in the idea for a national victims’ ”compassion fund” along with relatives left behind after other shootings such as those at Virginia Tech, a Sikh temple in Wisconsin and a movie theater in Aurora, Colo. Under the proposal, money donated after future tragedies would be sent directly to those most affected, cutting out major nonprofit organizations that are set up to be more focused on the community.
“Nobody who has been through this wants to have to go and deal with boards and committees and talk about money, and justify why you need it,” said Cristina Hassinger, the daughter of slain Sandy Hook Principal Dawn Hochsprung. “Money is the last thing you want to have to deal with, especially when you are grieving.”
The gunman at Sandy Hook killed 20 first-graders and six educators on Dec. 14. Two wounded staff members survived, as did 12 children who saw the shootings. Donations after the massacre poured in from all over the world.
Distributions from the biggest charitable fund, the Newtown-Sandy Hook Community Foundation, have been delayed twice as administrators try to balance the needs of the recipients. The fund, formed to take control of $11.4 million that was raised with the help of the United Way, has said it plans to divvy up $7.7 million among the families of the children killed, to the surviving children and the two staffers.
Committees will be formed and meetings held to decide how to spend the rest of the money, and whether to keep some of it as an investment tool for future mental health-care needs.
Reaching a consensus over the split has not been easy, especially when trying to bring together families that have been through so much but may have competing interests, said Dr. Charles Herrick, the foundation’s president.
“Whenever you see a child who survived that situation, it is going to be all the more painful, magnifying your own sense of loss,” he said. “Alternatively, if your child was exposed to that horror, your concern is ‘How do I protect my child?’ So, the needs are very different.”
The families are not seeking more money and the issue is much bigger than just deciding how much each deserves, said Ian Hockley, whose son, Dylan, 6, was killed at Sandy Hook. The state attorney general has identified more than 70 funds in Newtown that have raised more than $21 million for everything from a memorial to scholarships for Sandy Hook students.
The hodgepodge of charities has created a cumbersome process for everyone involved, and a concern that some people may be using the images of slain children inappropriately.