For Parents, Learning Signs of Trouble

Addressing children's violence toward or intimidation of other children is not just the role of teachers and school administrators, say child health experts. Parents also play a crucial role in recognizing and reducing opportunities for such behavior.

Parents should assume their children "are either involved in bullying or have seen it," said Bennett Leventhal, a child and adolescent psychiatrist and professor of psychiatry at the University of Illinois at Chicago College of Medicine. The trick is getting them to talk about it.

Leventhal's suggestion: Rather than asking "if" kids have seen or been involved in bullying, ask, "What about when you were bullied?" and "When have you picked on other kids or just stood by and watched when it happened?" Then ask how the situation made them feel and ask if you can help.

Some changes in behavior patterns may also signal a child's involvement in bullying -- either as victim or perpetrator. But since these warning signs may also have other causes, say experts, it is important that parents talk with their children and seek professional help if needed.

· Signs of being a bully

Aggressive, spiteful, oppositional, dominating, manipulative behavior.

Enjoys insulting and teasing others.

Fighting and getting into trouble at school.

Using physical means to express anger.

· Signs of being a victim

Bruises, cuts or other injuries with no credible explanation.

Damaged clothing or lost possessions without good explanation.