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Sunday, October 23, 2005

Dear Amy:

I just found out that my live-in boyfriend has a 2-year-old child. He wants nothing to do with her or her mother, who was pregnant when we began to date. He had already broken up with her and has not seen her since the breakup.

We have no desire to see this child. He may have to pay child support anyway. We had to change our telephone number when we moved to avoid the calls.

The problem is his friends and family. I found out about this child when I read an e-mail -- we share everything -- from a close friend just ripping him to shreds.

I want to send an e-mail to everyone on his list telling them to butt out.

What do you think?

Not Interested

Ewww. I think I need to take a shower.

Of course your live-in boyfriend will have to pay child support; furthermore, running from it (changing your phone number, etc.) is against the law.

This guy's friends and family aren't the problem.

He is. And you are.

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