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Thursday, March 2, 2006

Dear Amy:

I am a 41-year-old woman who has been happily married for 10 years. My husband is my best friend.

The problem is that lately I feel like he is my only friend.

Although I consider myself shy, I never had any problem making and keeping friends when I was younger. It seems that as the years go by my old friendships have fizzled out (not from lack of attention on my part) and it's almost impossible to find new people that I have anything in common with.

I don't hang out with the younger singles, and I rarely meet a married woman my age without kids. I don't think that I am one of those overly needy people that scare others away, nor am I boring.

My husband and I have only a few "couple" friends that we socialize with, and most of them were his friends when we met.

I don't necessarily want to be "Ms. Popularity." I would just like one or two friends who have time to return a phone call or go out for a drink.

I am working as an independent contractor, so I can't even make friends at work!

Is something wrong with me or is it just my situation?

Please help me out?

Friendless in Virginia

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