What Parents Can Do to Help

Psychologists say it isn't always obvious to parents that their child is being excluded at school, because many children are reluctant to discuss it. Exclusion is a form of bullying and can cause lasting psychological damage, particularly if the problem persists.

Here are some responses experts recommend if you suspect your child is a victim:

· Take it seriously and listen carefully. Do not dismiss or minimize what is happening. Empathize without overreacting or blaming your child.

· Make your child feel that home is a supportive place.

· Determine whether an adult at school has noticed the problem.

· Discuss the issue with a teacher, guidance counselor or school psychologist.

· Enroll your child in an activity with other children outside school.

· If the problem persists, consider asking for a change of classrooms. If the situation doesn't improve, think about switching schools.

Sources: National Association of School Psychologists; Rosalind Wiseman; expert interviews