ASK AMY

Friday, March 2, 2007

Dear Amy:

I have been dating "Steve" for more than six weeks, and things are going great. I love him very much. He has told me that he loves me, too. I met him two years ago when he was going through his divorce with his first wife.

Last night, Steve introduced me to his friends. Over the course of the evening, we had a lot of beers and had a blast. One of his best friends, "Chris," told me that I was the best thing that ever happened to Steve.

Then I committed a terrible faux pas. I said, "Yes, I feel the same way. Chris -- I mean STEVE -- is the only man I want to be with!"

Chris laughed it off, but I was mortified. I stopped drinking for the rest of the night, but I feel so horrible. I feel as though I betrayed Steve, and I wonder if I should tell him about this. Steve has been through a rough divorce. His ex-wife cheated on him. I'm afraid that Chris will tell Steve about this. I don't want to hurt him. Steve is so wonderful and kind. I love him so much, and I can't believe that I made this terrible mistake. Should I fess up to Steve and risk losing him, or should I just let this pass and hope that Chris doesn't think anything or say anything about this?

Sleepless in Regret

Clearly, this has been a very dramatic event for you. So let me put things into perspective.

A terrible faux pas worthy of explanations, confessions and sleepless nights is waking up next to Steve and calling him Chris. What happened to you is akin to the time I raised my hand to answer a question in 10th-grade history and eagerly addressed my teacher, Mr. Lange, as "Grandma."

Forget it. Very likely, everybody else who was present at the time already has.

Dear Amy:

Although my friend of 60 years and I live 200 miles apart, we talk several times a week on the phone.


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