A Daughter's Untimely Requiem

"She enjoyed being different," her father said. "Whether it be dance or theater or character acting, her mind worked differently. . . . She was unique in that way. She saw things in a different perspective, which we don't. And she could translate that into something that was beautiful, in a performance. It was innate, since she was probably 2 years old, when she started to dance. She had a different rhythm in her head."

She was born June 23, 1988, the youngest of the couple's three children. Her brother, Omar, is 23; her sister, Randa, 21.

"She was not always neat," her mother said. "But when she was growing up, she would not want to do finger painting, because it was messy. . . . Yes, she always had to be the pretty girl. She was dainty. Little hands, little fingers. Finger painting was not her thing. . . . She always wanted to play dress up. When she was 2 or 3, she took all of her grandmother's shoes . . . She was in love with shoes.

"And she would want to wear high heels," Mona said. "But of course nobody can wear high heels at 3 and go up and down the stairs. . . . But she was in the blue and shiny high heels, going up and down the stairs all the time."

And that lovely face in the portrait photo. Later yesterday, speaking to 800 people at the memorial service at a Chantilly church, Joe would say this about her smile: "It was the bait, the lure -- tempting you. And then, when she would capture your friendship and love, like a carpenter bee, she would drill a very clean hole into your heart."

In the living room, her mother said: "I noticed when she was a baby, she would cry, but as soon as I put her in the crib, she would stop." There was a white satin comforter in the crib that pacified little Reema. "One time, when I pulled her out, she carried it with her. And I noticed that it meant something to her. When I took it out of her hand, she was not happy. So that was something very special that she carried with her wherever she goes."

Even to Virginia Tech, to her dorm room in Slusher Wing. "We've got it now," Mona said of the comforter. Yesterday, she took it to the funeral home, to put with Reema.

Other things Reema liked: Lebanese salad and funny TV shows, Harry Potter books and MAC cosmetics. Red lipstick, especially. She liked the color red.

She graduated from Westfield High School last spring, the same school from which Cho graduated in 2003. "On the night of her prom, she looked so beautiful, with her wavy hair all to the side," her mother said. "Like Princess Jasmine. Fiery red dress. Big earrings. And everybody came to tell me she looked like Princess Jasmine, right from 'Aladdin.' "

The University of Virginia wait-listed her, and that was a disappointment. "She was sad that she couldn't go to U-Va., where her friends and cousin and sister are," Mona said. "So she went to Virginia Tech, because it is the school that accepted her, one of the best schools. But she was a little lost there."

"She was homesick at first," her father said.

"Very homesick," her mother said. "In her words in the e-mails, there was a lot of sadness. And then I asked her if she cries, and she said, 'Well, duh !' But she wouldn't want to talk about it. But I could tell. Every weekend there was a message. Saturday and Sunday."

In their hearts, her parents wanted her home, wanted to gather her up in their arms, but they resisted, hoping she would tough it out -- which she did. "This semester, her second, was a semester of discovery," Joe said. Reema had always been attuned to her heritage, and she joined a dance troupe of Middle Eastern students at Virginia Tech. She also performed with the school's Contemporary Dance Ensemble. She made many friends.

And decided on a major: urban planning.

Her mother and father visited her last weekend, to watch her dance. And they had planned another trip this weekend.

"Last Sunday, after all the performances, she kept repeating, 'I'm so happy you came, Mommy! I'm so happy you came!' And that was the last sentence she said to me, right as we were leaving. And she hugged me. We left at 6. And when we got home, about 10, her sister had to talk to her for something, so they talked on the phone.

"Reema told her, 'I'm already feeling lonely, but I shouldn't, because they just left me, and I'll see them again next week.' "

Then, in the morning came the madness, and the end of everything.

After a while, Joe got up from the sofa, and his wife rose with him, both freighted with sorrow, a cargo of grief.

They stood there, and they knew it was time to leave.

Time to see Reema.

"We always thought she was like a butterfly, because she was so light," her mother said. "Like a flower. If I had to put her in small words: A butterfly. A star. A flower that was picked too soon."

Staff writers Ovetta Wiggins and Jacqueline L. Salmon contributed to this report.