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Sometimes Southern hospitality only goes so far

Sunday, July 1, 2007

7:30 p.m., La Ferme, Chevy Chase

Yolanda: [Date Lab] was my first blind date, so I was extremely nervous. My stomach was bubbling. Brian arrived a couple of minutes late. I heard the host tell him, "You won't be disappointed; she's gorgeous." [When] he came around the corner, he reminded me of Carlton Banks from "The Fresh Prince of Bel Air." Usually, I totally shut off guys I'm not attracted to, but I was still willing to give him a try.

Brian: I'll be brutally honest, seeing her was a relief. She was attractive. And she had very nice eyes, inviting.

Yolanda: We did the usual small talk. He told me where he's from, what school he went to. We talked 20 to 30 minutes before we even ordered.

Brian: She was very upfront about being introverted. That's usually [a sign that] this is going to be a pulling-teeth type of thing. But in the beginning it wasn't like that at all. She had the friendly demeanor of a Southern girl. The conversation started out good.

Yolanda: We ordered the prosciutto and asparagus appetizer. He's usually a meat-and-potatoes guy and doesn't try too many different things; I had to encourage him. I guess I expected him to be a little more well-rounded, since he was in the Navy and had an opportunity to see parts of the world.

Brian: We had some things in common. I was saying how I like Southern hospitality, and she was like, "Me, too." But the more talking we did just revealed how different we are, and not in the "opposites attract" kind of way. Like, she enjoys documentaries and hates action flicks. I enjoy documentaries, but if I have a choice between that and "Spider-Man," I'm going with "Spider-Man." She had been in school for nine years and has her PhD. I have a bachelor's degree, but I enjoyed school for the social part of it; she enjoyed the academic part. Once the main course came, the conversation just sort of floundered.

Yolanda: It'd been almost an hour, so I think we just ran out of things to talk about. I knew by that point that it wasn't a match.

Brian: There were some awkward pauses. I kind of ran off at the mouth to fill the silence. She crossed her arms a lot.

Yolanda: I didn't realize that my body language was projecting that image of me shutting him out. I did notice during the date that he would stare at me when I wasn't looking. I was like, I wonder what he's thinking? But I didn't want to ask.

Brian: It was just: Will she initiate the conversation, or will it just be a one-sided type of thing? We didn't have dessert. We took a few [photos], and I walked her to her car. It was about 10 p.m.

Yolanda: It was awkward. I felt like he wanted to say something or ask something; maybe he wanted my number. But my body language might have turned him off.

Brian: We had a half-hug, like a one-armed thing. The overall feeling was it didn't go well. It was just, like, let's chalk it up to experience. I'd rate the date a 3.5 out of 5.

Yolanda: He's sincere and genuine, but there was no chemistry. I'd rate the date a 4.

Interviews by Christina Breda Antoniades

UPDATE: Nuthin' doin'. "I think he could sense that he was not my type," Yolanda says.

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