How to Deal
Personal Information Can Aid a Bid to Relocate
Thursday, August 23, 2007; 12:12 PM
I'm interviewing for a job in another county. I can tell they are worried about the distance between my current home and the job.
I have mentioned that I'll be moving there at the end of the year, and I want them to know I'm serious -- but I'm moving to live with my boyfriend and don't really want to come out and tell a potential employer that.
Any suggestions on how to let them know I am serious about the position?
Many job seekers confront the issue of how to persuade an out-of-town employer that they have good reason to relocate.
This does not need to be a significant obstacle as long as you can convey sincere and legitimate reasons for relocating. I offer the same advice to you. The only difference is that in your case, the distance between you and your prospective employer is so great that your arguments need to be that much more persuasive.
Luckily, you have a very compelling reason for moving: family. Yes, family. You are moving to another country because you want to join your boyfriend. Who wouldn't understand the legitimacy of your plans?
I respect that you are reluctant to disclose too much personal information. Your instincts are good, but you need to make an exception in this case.
Are you able to say that you are engaged? If you have plans to marry, however remote, I don't think it would be unfair for you to refer to your significant other as a fiance. Depending on how conservative the country or employer is, this terminology might help solidify the depth of your commitment to relocate in their eyes.
If for any reason you cannot refer to your boyfriend as a fiance, opt instead for the term "significant other" or say that you are relocating for a "serious relationship." To avoid ambiguity, do not use the term "boyfriend," which can describe relationships on the full spectrum of seriousness.
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