Date Lab

Sunday, September 16, 2007


Fred: My main thing was to be on time. I spent the whole drive weaving in and out of traffic. When I got to the restaurant, I let them know that I was [there for Date Lab]. You could see the smile from the bartender.

Tammy: Fred had a football-player build -- not in an imposing way, more like a teddy bear. I'd consider him teddy bear cute. He's not someone I would necessarily notice right off the bat. But I didn't know his personality, so I didn't know if it was going to be a romantic attraction.

Fred: Tammy's height was perfect; her complexion was gorgeous; she greeted me with a smile. I wanted a hug but thought, Let's be safe, so I shook her hand. I'd say we talked for a good half-hour before we ordered. We both had an appetizer -- she got the stromboli, and I had the barbecue quesadillas -- and we shared. Then we both opted for Caesar salad. We both had two martinis. As soon as she said [she's a lobbyist], I started laughing -- you guys went out and found a lobbyist for me! I like to see a strong personality. She's definitely very tough.

Tammy: We [talked about him being a teacher], and I thought it was a great thing. A lot of my friends are teachers. I admire what they do. We talked about sports, and we both are pretty athletic. We had similar tastes in music. But I wouldn't characterize [the conversation] as flirty, per se.

Fred: I didn't want to come across as being too flirtatious. After hearing some of her dating experiences, it seemed like she ran into one bad apple after another. I was like, Oh, hold on, poor thing.

Tammy: He was definitely a good conversationalist and a fun person. We seemed to get along very well. But I don't know if I was attracted to him romantically. I thought of it more as two friends talking about their interests and getting to know each other.

Fred: After a while, she opened up more; she laughed more. I was attracted to her. I think I would have suggested [continuing the date after dinner] if I didn't have to go to work in the morning. We talked about meeting again next week and swinging some golf clubs together.

Tammy: We left around 10. He offered to drive me home, and I took him up on it. I'd rate the date a 3.5 [out of 5]. We talked about getting together again, but I wasn't sure if he thought we should get together as friends or in a romantic way. It could have just been me being clueless. I don't know that I want to go out on another "date," per se.

Fred: I'd rate the date a 4. I think we are going to take time out to get to know each other, or I'd hope so. I got more of a friendly kind of vibe from her, but she might be curious to learn more.

Interviews by Christina Breda Antoniades

UPDATE: Fred called Tammy the next morning, just to say that he had a good time. They never spoke again.

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