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CAROLYN HAX

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If it's about the money, then you have a point. If it's the effort, you have half a point -- one person may do all the cooking, but who then cleans it all up?

If it's just about the point, then you have six friends who enjoy each other's food and company so much that they're formalizing a plan to cook for each other regularly, and I like that point a lot better than begrudging nine extra steaks a year.

Either way, it sounds like you could make it all go elegantly away if everyone agreed to do your dishes, or make every other dinner at your house an orchestrated potluck.

Carolyn:

How do you know whether to get back together with an ex? The feelings are still there, but how do you know if things would really be different (without risking heartbreak)?

D.C.

I don't have enough facts, but you do: Use them to counteract, counterweigh and counter-clock anything that resembles wishful thinking. Where new facts aren't available, trust the old ones, and where no facts exist yet, trust your gut. Heartbreak is always possible. Lying to yourself all but guarantees it.

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