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Just Relax
The high school reunion is this summer. Mom is on the phone, mentioning that your old flame's wedding announcement ran in today's paper. There'll be seven weddings this year -- none of them yours -- and you have Tried. It. All.
The Internet. The blind dates. The smiling at strangers in grocery stores. (Does that ever actually work?)
Anyway, 'A' for effort, 'F' for results and you're just tired.
So: Rest.
"You need to take a sabbatical," says Chapman, the therapist. "You need to take time off and not look for a while."
All the rushing and searching can backfire, she says, like dousing yourself in too much perfume. The word, and it's an ugly one, is "desperation." People can smell that, too.
So take the night. Take the weekend. Take a month or three and turn off the pressure valve. The world and its people will still be there when you come back, fresh-faced and ready.
Incidentally, you do know what they say about people who aren't looking, right?
Tip: Giant has ice cream on sale this week for $2.74. And "Into the Wild" came out on DVD three days ago. Enjoy!
Get Out. Now.
Now, forget what we just said.
