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CAROLYN HAX

(Nick Galifianakis for The Washington Post)

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So, my advice is to stop talking about this, stop reading about this, stop clicking the links to size 12 beauty queens.

You will pick up some ambient noise about weight, inevitably, but block out as much as you realistically can. Make it about the store, your pantry, your fork. Every time you hear something destructive, schedule -- and then take -- a walk to counteract it.

Also consider seeing a reputable counselor who specializes in body-image issues. Most of the weight you're carrying now can't be measured on a scale.

You also can seek out allies in a weight-loss support group. Just make sure they're affiliated with programs that aren't diets, but instead lifestyle changes. Food didn't abuse you, people did -- you included. Look at this as firing everyone, and learning to care for yourself.

Write to Tell Me About It, Style, 1150 15th St. NW, Washington, D.C. 20071, ortellme@washpost.com.

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