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He never tells me I am pretty or cute. When we talk on the phone, it is really about nothing -- things like our dogs, the current presidential election and how girls are better than boys (that is more of a playful argument).
One time in an e-mail, Lonnie said my name was pretty. He said my name was, "so pretty I could dance barefoot on the table."
I really like talking to him, but am I asking too much of my boyfriend for a compliment once in a while? -- Wondering
DEAR WONDERING: If a 13-year-old boy says your name is so pretty he could dance barefoot on the table, I'd say you're waaaay ahead of the game. That's "Lonnie's" way of telling you he likes everything about you.
When you and "Lonnie" talk about "nothing," it's not really nothing. Your conversations are important because you are establishing a nice rapport.
Presumably, if you can talk easily about nothing, then when it's time to talk about "something," you'll be honest and forthright.
We all like to be told we're attractive, but I hope it's not too important to you. When someone really likes you, your character is going to be as attractive to him as your physical attributes.
DEAR AMY: Regarding the way teenagers choose to wear their hair, my daughter is a high school teacher, and she says that students with hairstyles and clothing that would be considered "different" are generally good kids. They are expressing their rebellion in an obvious manner.
The preppy, conformist type is much more likely to have serious problems.
My own grandson, a gentle, easygoing, non-confrontational young man, dyed his hair blue all through high school.
My advice? "Let it be, let it be." -- Shirley in Bridgeton, Mo.
DEAR SHIRLEY: Speaking as a proud family member in which the kids seem to span the spectrum of hair and clothing choices, I echo your sentiments but challenge your assertion. Stereotyping "preppy" kids is as unfair as stereotyping anyone else.
But, yes, I agree: Paul McCartney was right.
Let it be.
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