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CAROLYN HAX

(Nick Galifianakis for The Washington Post)

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Your girlfriend was right: An invitation addressed only to her means you weren't invited, and it's not acceptable to pressure brides to add guests without a legitimate reason.

If you have legitimate grounds to believe your girlfriend can't be trusted without a chaperone, then please direct your efforts to asking yourself why you're still with her -- not angling for invitations to weddings you wouldn't otherwise want to attend.

Dear Carolyn:

My mom increasingly calls me for advice, especially about how to handle younger (but adult) siblings -- which is odd in that we're "good kids," so clearly my parents have some idea what they're doing. Some days I find it flattering, but others I find it very stressful.

Va.

Advising can make you feel responsible for someone's choices, which explains the stress. But just as your mom chooses to seek your counsel, she can also choose not to heed it. All you can do is offer an informed opinion when you have one and, even more important, recognize when you don't. And recognize that oracles can have questions, too.

Write to Carolyn Hax, Style, 1150 15th St. NW, Washington, D.C. 20071, ortellme@washpost.com.

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