Date Lab: Is it possible to take that 'cowboy' thing too literally?

Sunday, October 19, 2008

7:30 p.m., Sweetwater Tavern, Centreville

Chrissie: I got there a couple minutes early, and he was already there. He was tall and nice-looking, with a nice smile, and he'd gotten dressed up; he was wearing a suit and tie. He had brought me a dozen roses, which was so sweet.

Clay: She was a good-looking girl but not my type. She looked like a D.C. professional. And she was not fat in any way, but she was heavier than the girls I typically go out with.

Chrissie: We sat down and talked about our backgrounds. He is from Virginia and went to school in West Virginia. He graduated with his master's in agriculture this past May. Now he raises cattle. I've never even met a farmer or cattle rancher. I said on my Date Lab questionnaire that I wanted a cowboy, but I was doing that tongue-in-cheek. [I meant] I like guys' guys who are gentlemen and treat women well and have more traditional values.

Clay: Women like the idea of a cowboy. A cowboy wears a cowboy hat every day. I'm not cool enough to wear a cowboy hat every day. I'm more of a farmer. I don't think she was looking for that. [I think] she's looking for a Southern, urban gentleman.

Chrissie: I didn't realize how much of a city girl I am until I heard about his life. I like to go out with my friends. He works all the time, goes to bed and then does it all again. He really likes the peace and quiet. I'm more socially oriented. As lifestyles, we're polar opposites.

Clay: I've been through the night-life thing. I did it in high school and college. Heavily. I'm not looking for that fast of a pace anymore. What I do for fun is mostly work. And I'm very reserved. Chrissie is constantly with her friends. She's very open. That's awesome, but just not the way I work.

Chrissie: I think the way you live your life has a lot to do with your values. I value my relationships a great deal. I think he values hard work a lot more. That's not to say we didn't have a good time. It was interesting because we are so different; he's not someone I would have met in a thousand years. We finished dinner around 10. He walked me to my car, and I gave him a hug. He gave me his card and said if I was ever in [his] area to give him a call.

Clay: There weren't any sparks, but that's fine. It was fun talking to someone who is so different. She's not the right person for me, but an interesting person. I'd give the date a 4 [out of 5].

Chrissie: Despite our really big differences, I would give it a 4. We had good conversation, and he was a total gentleman the whole night.

Interviews by Kelly DiNardo

UPDATE: The daters don't plan to see each other again.

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