Date Lab

Sunday, November 2, 2008


Stuart: Before the date, I was nervous. Date Lab doesn't have the best record. I was like, She's going to be ugly. I got to the restaurant early, but I didn't want to be the one there waiting, so I ended up sitting outside, talking [on the phone] to my brother. Then across the plaza I saw this beautiful brunette. I knew that was her. You just know. I gave her a few minutes to get in and get settled.

Heather: They were talking to me about the wine list [when Stuart] came up. I thought, Th ank God he's attractive. Normally I'm attracted to tall, dark and handsome, like everyone else. Stuart's average height, but he has classic good looks. And you could tell that he was built.

Stuart: I felt an instant chemistry. We started talking and trying to fi gure out why Date Lab put us together. We're both Democrats, we both have great relationships with our families and spiritually we agreed on a lot. After about 10 minutes, a baby behind us was crying, so I said, "Do you mind if we move?" And she said, "Can we?" Th e upstairs was closed, but I ended up talking them into letting us sit there. [Then] I ordered for both of us. We shared everything. It was very comfortable, kind of romantic.

Heather: Th ere was intellectual and physical chemistry. We talked about dates that we'd been on; what I found funny, he did, too. And we had similar takes on life: laid-back generally but at work kind of controlling.

Stuart: She says what she thinks. I love that. We talked about deal-breakers. She has a fur, and I defi nitely don't believe in killing something just for one [purpose]. She was like, "I have a fur; do you care?" I said, "No." And she said, "What if I buy another?" I said, "Well, we can discuss it." She started laughing. We talked about my kids. My boys are in their first year of college.

Heather: His kids are almost adults, that's great. I don't want kids. I'm not opposed to dating somebody with kids; I just don't want a 4-year-old that I have to diaper and read bedtime stories to.

Stuart: I took my time taking pictures; I was enjoying being close to her.

Heather: We had coffee and dessert. Then he asked me if I'd be interested in going out [the next] weekend. I told him I'd be out of town, and he suggested Sunday. So we have plans. I definitely liked that he asked. I don't do this, "Let's wait three days till we call." That's so stupid.

Stuart: It was about 8:30, and we were done [eating]. I said, "Do you want to walk around?" So we walked and talked. It was cobblestone, so she didn't have her full balance, and we bumped into each other a couple of times. I kind of liked that. Then I walked her to her car, and she drove me to mine. I gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek. First dates I never do anything more than that. But I definitely felt the chemistry. It was so tempting to break my rule.

Heather: I'd rate the date a 5. He was honest, sincere, attractive. We had good chemistry.

Stuart: I totally think it was a 5. When we got home, we ended up texting [and then] talking [on the phone] till like midnight.

Interviews by Christina Breda Antoniades

UPDATE: Heather got delayed Sunday, and said she was sick Tuesday. Hope springs eternal, but plans are vague.

Want Date Lab to set you up? Go to for details.

© 2008 The Washington Post Company