The Soldier's Code My Mother Keeps

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Dear GOG, I love you in every country, in every state, and all the way home. I will telephone you when I get to the train station. Let's hope Baby won't be scared.

Crazy about Gog and Baby --

Charlie

That message, on a yellowing, cracked postcard, needed no explanation for folks of my mother's generation.

Baby was my oldest brother, "Little" Charlie, who lived his first 18 months without having met his father, who was mostly away for nearly five years spanning the war. Baby did end up being scared of the uniformed stranger when he was back in the States on furlough; my mother laughingly recalled his "Go away, Man," imprecation, offered when my father tried to enter the bedroom.

When my mother became pregnant with her second child, she wrote to President Harry Truman, asking if he could please speed things up so that her husband would not miss the birth of his second child.

The White House replied with a polite form letter. Not long after, James was born, my father still absent.

Truman did finally speed things up, dropping atomic bombs on Hiroshima and Nagasaki, accepting the Japanese surrender, and sending antiaircraft artillery specialist Charlie McGrath by ship and rail to the train station on Chicago's South Side.

We had speculated that one of the G's in G-O-G could stand for Gertrude, my mother's name. We'd sit at the kitchen table, ostensibly doing homework, brainstorming to break the code on our loose-leaf pages: Ga-Ga over Gertrude . . . Girlfriend of Glamour . . . Gem of a Girl.

When we were older, we surmised that its meaning might be adult in nature, something that was none of our business. But my father addressed her birthday and Valentine's Day cards, even her Christmas gifts, "With love, to GOG," into his seventies. This seemed to rule out such a notion.

As I reflect on my mother's store of images and recollections, it makes me almost dizzy to think that there were 16 million other men and women who served during World War II, each connected to their own family's mountain of memories. Add to that the tens of thousands of veterans of Korea, Vietnam, Iraq, Afghanistan and all the campaigns in between. We owe it to all of them to tell their stories, particularly on Veterans Day.

Today, Gertrude McGrath is 88. Her soldier boy has been dead 15 years.

"It's okay for you to finally tell us what GOG means, don't you think, Mom?" I could see her eyes clearly through her thick glasses, but her face darkened as she shook her head no.

I felt a catch in my throat then, as I realized that as long as only the two of them share the secret, Charlie remains alive in her heart. He was in the room.

I hugged and kissed her goodbye, feeling the tear on her cheek.

Hers, of course.

An English instructor at the University of South Alabama, David McGrath has just completed a memoir about growing up in the Midwest in the 1960s. His email address is dmcgrath@usouthal.edu.