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DEAR AMY: I need to know what should be done with my daughter's wedding picture. The picture is a formal, studio portrait showing her wearing her wedding gown. It is a beautiful picture of her, and it hangs in my living room.
The reason for the concern is that my daughter is no longer married. Her husband decided after six years of marriage that he "just was not happy." They divorced, and he married someone else.
As of now, my daughter is not married, but she is the mother of a wonderful 4-year-old boy, and they live in another town.
I never thought anything about this photograph until someone brought it to my attention. Should the picture stay, or should it go into a closet for storage? -- Wondering Mom
DEAR MOM: Divorce weaves weird and unexpected ripples through a family. This is an example of the sort of artifact left over from a relationship that can create an awkward situation.
You should ask your daughter what she thinks of the photograph. If she doesn't mind it hanging in your living room and if you like it there, then keep it.
If you choose to remove it from the wall, don't go overboard and stick it in a closet -- you might want to hang it in your bedroom.
Additionally, I have an idea for a holiday gift from you to your daughter. You could offer her a new studio sitting -- and this time the portrait could be of her with your grandson, or of the three of you together.
DEAR AMY: I am responding to "Sad and Shocked," who talked about a mother's referring to seventh-grade girls as "whores."
As a sophomore boy in high school, I have recently witnessed what modern middle-school students are really like. The sad truth is that there are some girls who, by seventh grade, wear tight and revealing clothes and are rather flirtatious with a number of boys.
While I believe it is OK for peers to call these girls "whores," it is completely inappropriate for parents to use this word.
Kids exchanging insults with other kids, while it may not be nice, is normal. Parents blatantly insulting kids like that is uncalled for.
